Ok, Im a straight male but people think Im gay because I am very flamboyant because Ive grown up around all women and I never had a male father figure. Honestly, I think if I was more masculine I could attract more girls than I already do.(which is still better than some) I wanna become more masculine. What should I do?
2006-11-02 08:26:19 · 17 answers · asked by letsgettogether 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
get the ghetto out of you-come to Jesus and amazing grace-John chapter 3 it will make you a true man-who lives in honor-and you wont be defined by how many women you can attract-and the right one for life will be intact-thanks in John chapter 3 :D amazing grace that saved a wretch like me
2006-11-02 08:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Record your voice with a tape recorder and listen to the way you talk that makes you sound "gay". Don't overdo your S's (you shouldnt say them like a snake)
Try to talk slower and try to adopt more of a monotone... girls voices generally go "up and down" in pitch quite a lot so watcht hat you are not doing this.
Don't wear really stylish clothes like tight flared jeans or open necked shirts because that looks like you are either a rich gangster or gay. Wear some dirty jeans and tshirts.
Don't work out too much and get really muscly and brown because that can look pretty gay as well.
When you have achieved these things try to hang around guys a bit more. Don't be too sensitive and try being slighty chauvinistic.. not piggish, just chauvinistic like the average male. Don't talk about fashion and crap like that. Watch the rugby or whatever sports are popular in america (baseball?) and learn the rules so you can join in discussions with other guys without feeling left out. Try getting in some fights with guys.. it doesnt matter if you get your a$S kicked because it might harden you up and fill you with hate.
Listen to music like Death metal etc, download some Carcass or Hatebreed, maybe even some Napalm Death and listen to that. It wil make you filled with rage and make you feel more masculine because you will feel like fighting and stuff
dont be too sensitive towards obscene jokes and females. dont forget that you are a male, not a female!
good luck! :)
oh and dont clean shave all the time, maybe let some stubble grow or something and dont have those stupid little goatee things like craig davids or whatever his name is because they are gay as hell
2006-11-02 08:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Impavidus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could try acting like all the other guys do, dressing the way other guys do, and talking like the other guys do. But what's the point? You are who you are. If people can't get past that, they're not worth being with in the beginning. Being feminine is not a bad thing. Some women find it endearing. Trust me. Jocks and those really "manly" men get tiring, and sometimes all a woman wants is someone who she can actually relate to instead of the men who are too busy watching football to spend time with her. Being yourself is always best. ;)
2006-11-02 08:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by lilazngurly53146 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be who you are. Some women actually prefer a more sensitive guy, and as long as you are yourself, then who cares.
I don't even know what to tell you as far as being more "manly" since there are all kinds of personalities....lift weights, drink beers, burp a lot.....just kidding.....Honestly, I think you have it going on.....you already attract a lot of girls (so you say) so just keep being you and the right girl for you will come along eventually :-)
2006-11-02 08:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you say you're flamboyant. In what way, dress? Talk? Attitude? Those things you can learn to reign in.
2006-11-02 08:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the stereotypes are that women are attracted to gay guys. just find a woman. (easiest way is to meet a lot of women)
2006-11-02 08:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're gay. just kidding.
Dress differently.
Lower the tone of your voice.
get a new hair cut.
Watch some Steve McQueen movies and do what he does. Yeah, I realize the irony that his last name is Mc"Queen"
2006-11-02 08:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a sport team, maybe if see what your supposed to act like you'll figure it out.
2006-11-02 08:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by brett.brown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why flamboyant is more fun then macho any day
2006-11-02 08:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by harmony moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with more guys. Pick up their mannerisms, but not necessarily their habits.
2006-11-02 08:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Holly W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋