My ex-husband is an a**. My daughter told me this morning that her dad's sister is teaching her how to light cigarettes with a lighter. Of course, her dad will deny it. The question is, what can I do about it? The aunt is the baby sitter when my daughter is at her father's, which due to current custody arrangements, she is two weeks out of the month. I want my daughter to be taken care of, not end up burning a house down!!
For the record, my daugter is four, very smart, and I have taught her not to mess with guns, knives, lighters, matches, that kind of stuff. She knows the rules at mama's house.
2006-11-02 08:19:21 · 8 answers · asked by tinkerbell24 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should "one-up-him". Teach her how to crush beer cans with her forehead.
2006-11-02 08:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by ©ubs Fan™ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'll bet that that's not the only sh*t thats going down over there.
Call social services when you know she's there and let them go take a look. Get proof first so you have grounds for your fears. I wouldn't want my little girl to be in that kind of environment because God alone knows what they'll be teaching her next. Maybe thats just the kick the situation needs to keep your daughter home with you at least 20 days out of the month. Limit the amount of damage they can inflict on her impressionable mind.
2006-11-02 09:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is any actual abuse (even neglect), and you can prove it, there is probably nothing you can do about it. My husband and I are in a very similar situation with his ex-wife, and his attorney told him a couple of days ago that we could waste $10,000, and accomplish nothing, unless we can PROVE something. I am very sorry. I would like to recommend a book that is helping us. It is called "Joint Custody with A Jerk", by Julie A. Ross & Judy Corcoran. I know the title is funny, but it is a very good book. I think it will help you. We have to realize to let things go that we can't do anything about and make the best of a bad situation. Give your daughter the best life that you can when she is with you and PRAY for her (and her dad) when she is with him. It is hard, but you can do it! God bless!
2006-11-02 08:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a complaint with the court and ask for custody arrangements to be reconsidered. It's very dangerous to teach a child to use a lighter, not to mention irresponsible. You have a right to protect your child. Personally, I wouldn't let my child go to her father's under those circumstances, regardless of the custody agreement.
2006-11-02 08:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 05:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by shimp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darn.. you DO have a problem here.. but.. I think you did the best thing.. You taught her how to look out for herself.. w/the knives, and the like. I have an *** ex too.. (or did.. kids all over l8 now, thank God!) He'd do anything, use the kid to piss me off! It's so un-adult.. I don't know what the (we call it 'Fiend here') Friend of the Court is like there.. (they don't do squat here.. say they are too understaffed.. maybe..) BUT they always say to 'document' everything.. I know.. it's kinda lame.. I mean it only takes ONE incident to (God forbid) injure your precious daughter... I feel for you! ( like totally..!) Is this other house where this b*tch aunt lives anywhere closeby you? (That'd be handy.. probably unlikely tho.. stuff just works out that way..) Be nice if somebody (grandparent?) could help you out here.. check on the kiddy? any neighbors there that can help you (maybe document some of this stuff goin' down over there?) I personally think IF you seriously think she is going to get hurt? the hell with everybody in the whole world.. she is YOUR baby.. Keep her home, tell the courts to f*ck off, hon! (yeah, I am volatile.. I went through a lotta crap w/the ex here in lower Michigan.. including locking me out of my own home leaving the kids in it so he could gloat.. cops watching from the corner saying 'it's his house too.. nothing we can do..' Damn I hate my ex too..!!! (peace-n-luv)... :)
2006-11-02 08:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the go to court thing, call your lawyer. Our current agreement says no one can smoke in the home with the children, or the vehicle, including sitters, etc.....
In texas its called the children's bill of rights.
2006-11-02 08:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this could be a custody issue that needs to be resolved in court
or in the social service office.
He is endangering your child.
2006-11-06 05:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋