...The house?? My husband does work his butt off too and he is a great father, but there are times when I wish that he could help me out a bit more. By the time he is ready for bed, I am thinking of other things that need to be cleaned...or I cannot shut off my brain to go to sleep. There are times when I feel so overwhelmed that I don't clean my house for a couple days, because I get burned out. I also am a stay-at-home mom, and most guys think all you do is sit on your a** all day and watch "your stories". Any suggestions on how I can get him to help out more?? Thank you.
2006-11-02 08:05:36 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, he doesn't think I sit on my butt all day, he knows I work hard too. I also mow the yard, and do anything else that needs to be done.
2006-11-02 08:07:21 · update #1
I almost forgot, he does take out the trash...when I ask him to a few times.
2006-11-02 08:19:58 · update #2
Have you simply just asked for more help?
Or is the real problem that you feel guilty asking for the help?
I used to feel guilty, but when I explained how I was feeling to my hubby, he was very receptive to helping me more as he really wanted to make sure I was happy, too.
It doesn't make you a bad mother/wife to ask for help. Sometimes it can make a man feel great that he is needed, too!
2006-11-02 08:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by curiousRO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him. If you let it build up, you will eventually break. I just went through the same thing being a stay at home mother. Tell him how you feel and ask for a little help when he is home.
2006-11-02 16:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him take care of the outside himself. I help my wife somewhat around the house now and then, but the outside and garage are all mine. I use my free time, usually the weekend to do that. I use to help out a lot more, but my daughters are 12 & 15 and help out quite a bit, push her and there, but anyway try and get him to do the heavier stuff.
Good luck and dust away ! lol
2006-11-02 16:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when he goes to bed you go to. lay with him. you need time together even for a while. relax and think about the love you both share and not about cleaning.. ask him on his days off, get him in a routine and he will will help you during the week also .
2006-11-02 16:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. i try to get my husband to help me for about an hour on his day off. you can get alot done in an hour. also leave the little things for him to do when he gets home, like my husbands loads the dishwasher sometimes having him do the little things helps out alot.
2006-11-02 16:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋