I am 13 and pregnant?

Question

i have been with my bf for almost two year and have been haveing sex for about 5 months we have been carefull but the condom broke once. i havent had my period in a month and a half and i took a home preg test and it was positive. i told my bf who just turned 16 he has a job and said that he will help and wants to be in our babys life. we are both really good in school and i plan on going up untill i have the baby and going back soon after. i just dont know how to tell my parents that i am pregnant, i am afraid that they will be mad at me and kick me out

how do i tell them

Answer 1

You need to tell your parents right away. At thirteen your body hasn't developed enough to be pregnant. This puts you at high risk, you need prenatal care ASAP!

Answer 2

They won't kick you out sweetie. They can't by law anyway. The sooner you tell them, the sooner you can get medical care for you and your baby. Your parents will be mad, of course. That's to be expected. You will understand their frustration when you have a child that does the same thing. I'm sad that you chose to have sex at such an early age though. You are too young to be doing "adult" things. You are still in middle school! I had a baby at almost 19, and it was still hard. I can only imagine the road you have ahead of you. Adoption might be a good choice for you. You will live the rest of your life having people put you down because of your age and how early in life you got pregnant. Be a kid, and enjoy life, not sex. I don't mean to be harsh, what's done is done, but you have to take responsibility for this. Your parents need to know so they can help you. Whatever you do though, do NOT abort! You will regret it. Does your bf's family know yet? You will need to "grow up" really fast, and just be honest with yourself and your parents. I wish you the best of luck, and my prayers are certainly with you. You will need them hon.

Answer 3

If you don't tell them, they will be even more furious for not letting them know they have a grand baby. I think you should tell them sooner or later. Yes they will be mad, but realize that we are not perfect and we can make mistakes sometimes. Just remember that the decision you took to have this baby is very important to you and your boyfriend. I think the fact that he has a job and that he is taking the responsibility to take care of his child is great!! while your parents are yelling at you in the living room, tell them with a sincere heart how you feel about this then tell them that you will be in your baby's life and that it would mean a lot if they could be in his or her life too. The life of a baby has no significance if the mother is not a part of it. But the life of that baby is worth nothing if the grandparents don't recognize him or her.

Answer 4

Hey hon: There's no turning back now.. So you have to tell your parents. If they kick out a 13 year old pregnant girl...(well I can't tell you what I would think of that, it would be disrespectful of me)

Don't be afraid...they will be in "shock" ..you would be too if you were them.

You seem to have a good plan, you're staying in school, then returning after the baby..all good!

Don't count on the bf too much, he's only 16 and could change his mind..

So, at such a young age, you have to be strong for yourself and your baby..

Now.. go tell them. Write back, let us know what's happening, many people on this site will be concerned for you.

Answer 5

Sounds like you have it all figured out! Where your parents aware that you and your boyfriend were sexually active. You have mentioned that you have been together for two years, that would have made you eleven. Your parents should have some idea that their little girl is growing up having allowed you to carry on for two years with a boyfriend. It is not a day to rejoice in that you have fallen pregnant as your a child yourself but they must understand that it does happen and that you must pull together as a family. They will be disappointed and no doubt raise their voice but in the end they will come around and when they see the beauty of this babies face as they recall how beautiful you were as a baby they will begin the healing process and fall in love with your baby.

Answer 6

I know how you feel. I got pregnant at 15, I was so scared to tell my parents but they took it a lot better than i thought yes they where upset but they supported me. my boyfriend and I got married right before i turned 16 and i would not change it for the world. My daughter was born in october of 2002 she's now 4 years old and she is the best thing that has happened to me.i am currently trying for #2... if i was you i would start out talking to mom first then let her help you tell your dad.

Answer 7

I doubt your parent's will kick you out. I'm not going to lie and say that they won't be angry and upset and extremely disappointed, but most parents will be supportive.

If you feel that you need help talking to them, ask another trusted adult to be there with you. That can be a teacher, aunt or uncle, counselor, anyone that will be there to support you AND your parents. Just tell them. Work through whatever decisions you have to make. You can't do this alone.

I'm not going to lecture about being pregnant at 13. There's no point now. I feel really sad for you, it's so much tougher than will ever imagine. You won't be allowed to be a child any longer.

Answer 8

Well it looks like you havemade your decision already as to keep your baby or not. So since that is decided. Tell the parent that you are closest with, tell them the truth & then tell the other parent. I doubt that tehy will throw you out, they love you & they will probably be upset at firstbut give them time and it should all work out alright. Tell them your plans to keep the baby. Your boyfriend may say all that now but don't count on him stickin around because they sometimes get bored & don't want o be parents. But Good Luck. ANd COngrasts!! :)Its very young so go to the doctor asap.!! and please dont have sex again until marriage.

Answer 9

Idon't want to sound rude..but you should have though about this before you had sex...i think you just need to get some balls and tell your parents i'm sure they will be dissapointed but they will prolly come around..you really need to take a while in think about what you have done and maybe what you should start doing..you are only 13 and having a boyfriend for two years and getting pregnant sounds like a lil much for a 13 year old..maybe pray about it..and again i'm not trying to sound rude i just think you need someone to be totaly honest with you and tell you what you are doing is wrong

Answer 10

oh my god dating since 11 ,and pregnant before high school ?think of ur future.when your baby's a teen you'll still be in ur twenties.it cost a lot to support a baby and your way too young. I'm a teen myself and I'm telling you its best for you and your baby if you consider adoption . Do some research on pregnant teens and you'll see what I mean, if your parent say the same thing remember your there little girl and they only want what is best for you,every parents dream is seeing there thier baby gettin ther depolma and a good job ,not a 13 year old mom

Answer 11

Wow honey. I feel so bad that this has happened to you. Telling your parents is one of the scariest things your gonna have to do (other then giving birth and being a parent at your age). I would talk to your counselor in school, and explain to him/her that you are scared to tell your parents. Have your counselor with you as support when you tell your parents. You can have your parents go into his office, or ask your counselor to come to your home.

You need to tell your parents ASAP, you and the baby need to have a check up to make sure everything is ok.

Your parents will be hurt, sad, scared, mad every feeling in the book. But try and remember they love you, it's just going to be very hard for them to hear that their "baby" is having a baby at 13.

Good luck.