How to overcome shyness and lack of confidence?

Answer 1

First decide if you are shy or just quiet. There is a difference. If you are just quiet I would recommend *Party of One by Anneli Rufus and The Highly Sentive Person by Elaine Aaron please llok them up on the web and if that's you I would really recommend reading them

Answer 2

Being shy is being over self-aware. Try spending time with people who really really need you. Or animals. As soon as you find something more pressing and more important than your own shyness and the way you are feeling today, you will forget the small stuff and concentrate on important things, like other people. You could go to VSO Voluntary Services Overseas and they will send you to a part of the world where no-body is shy. They are all suffering and starving and will look upon you in a different way. Somebody a long time ago made you feel self-conscious. You dont need to find out what that was to know it was wrong. You are not disfunctional - unless you intend to be. Find a vocation and make your life as you intend it to be. It is never too late even if you were writing this aged 50/80/100.

Answer 3

Being shy is very common in this country---and speaking in front of groups is the number one fear in the nation. Overcoming shyness and building up confidence is a process.

Start out slowly. Speak up more often in places you feel most comfortable---a family gathering, a group of friends. Then be more daring---go to a coffee shop and stike up a conversation---keep it simple, for example, "Wow, can you believe that the holiday season is here already?"

Other things to do---get on groups such as these to learn about different subjects so that you will feel more confident in groups.
Try something you have always wanted to try---accomplishment builds up confidence. Join a groupd activity---art class, martial arts----build confidence and meet people.

Most of all--do not give up! Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy if we feel we are "never going to get through this'---and take time always to compliment yourself. It sounds silly, but building yourself up in the mirror works for a lot of people, or putting up notes around your room with "positives" about who you are. Hang in there! Just bringing this up to a group online is a step in the right direction! : )

Answer 4

it bothers me when people say to just overcome it. you can't. just as you can't make yourself taller is the same reason you can't be more outgoing. it is a genetic trait.

i would probably consider myself shy. i have struggled with this disease all my life, and there seems to be nothing i can do to get rid of it. because shyness is seen as a terrible quality in men, i never get any mates. the only time i am happy is when i am drunk, and i actually can talk to females with confidence and it feels good to be outgoing like the stupid jocks they love so much.
but alcohol is only a temporary solution.

my solution is this: after college, i am going to move to thailand. if your from the u.s, there is a lot of pressure to be really loud and obnoxious. thai people are much nicer and friendly and it is easier to be around them. plus the girls are awesome, and they pamper westerners.

so go to the land of smiles and be free.

Answer 5

To over come you must start out with baby steps. Set some goals small at first and larger as you go. As one goal is met the confidence begins to grow. Before you know it you will be less shy and much more confident. You must see accomplishments to overcome. You must set goals and meet them to accomplish anything.

Answer 6

First start looking poeple right in the eyes when spoken to,and you,ll be amazed at how other poeple are just as shy,and that will help you over come it!And everyday when you get up,Look your self in mirror and tell yourself{out loud]"Today i am gona like myself and work on loving myself!do that ever day and night,in bathroom mirror!also Start beleaving it!Hollywood

Answer 7

Know that "your're beautiful and it's true" say that to yourself. If you're in doubt about yourself enhance that area. Only you can build your self-esteem up; no books, person or magic potion. Believe in yourself, that's the magic and love yourself. Pamper yourself. Take time for U. If Somebody put you down; they were projecting; it's the way they see themselves. You're beautiful, it's true!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

1st.. find ppl that you admired who possess those qualities that you feel you lack.

2nd...study them and apply what you learned and intergrade them into your own personality.

3rd...make believe that you are an actor and start pretend that you are someone who exude confidence.

keep this in mind..90% of the time when you feel that you had said something stupid or did something embarrassing, chances are people didn't even noticed.

Good luck ! :)

Answer 10

You have to do what you fear.
If you self hypnotise yourself....see yourself doing something every night before you go to sleep....this will help you to overcome your shyness.
Works for me.