What do you do when a friend has violated your trust?

Answer 1

You sit down with them on a one on one basis and ask them why they did it. Allow your friend to explain his or herself.
Then, if the both of you want to forgive and forget, set some guidelines for future reference like... If you violate my trust again, I'm sorry but I won't be able to forgive again.
Life is too short to lose friends, so give your friend a second chance if you believe their apology is genuine.

Answer 2

Trust is fragile and when violated, is very difficult to regain. Trust plays a key role in every arena of our lives, because trust is the linchpin for all our relationships-family, school, church, work, and community. Certainly we all have asked such questions, especially after feeling the sharp blade of hurt in the violation of our trust. But it becomes increasingly difficult for us to run away from the issues if we hope to live a fruitful life of fulfilling work and relationships. If we only look on the surface, we wonder why we would trust anyone... The risk is too high, the pain too great. Why take the chance... I think with ANY relationship, trust will be violated because humans are not infallible. People will hurt you. that is an automatic "given" in anyone's life. What you first need to do is tell the Lord about your hurt. Give it to Him. And, ask God to help you forgive that person. You may need to distance yourself from that person for a while just to take the edge off of the emotional pain and let God work on healing. If it happens to be your spouse or someone you live with all the time, it may be better to get it out in the open and even offer counseling if the hurt is deep enough. Proverbs 3:5 & 6 says to "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths". Whomever we trust with all our heart is indeed whom we entrust with our very lives. First trust God, then love others. Loving brings trust, but there will be backward steps in any realtionship other than our relationship with God. I guess when we trust God within our relationships, he will help you through the times when someone else violates your undying trust in them.

Answer 3

Once, I stopped talking to that person altogethor. That doesnt work, so dont try it...people ask awkward questions and then you have to answer them. So, I suggest that you re-evaluate yourself and decide if you have truly been faithful to that person. If you have, then you should make your friend earn back your trust. If you havent been faithful than talk to the person about it. That usually helps.

Answer 4

You talk to them about it. Make sure you share how you feel. Then --well, you see what happens. Either they will understand and you will begin the process of re-building your relationship. Or they will tell you you are full of it and the friendship will be over.

But you have to honest and direct...which means not cussing and name calling, just the facts.

Answer 5

Depending on the issue, but if a friend ever does they should have to work to get it back or I just couldn't be as close with them ever again

Answer 6

Disassociate yourself with him or her and do not let them back into your life at the level of friendship you once had with them. There are enough people in the world to do harm to you, you don't need to call them friends and give them unlimited access.

Answer 7

Well it has happened to me several times it really depends if you keep a grudge. If you are like me and don't then I look for an appology and then have them to earn it back.

Answer 8

Learn from it and keep going because if they did it once they will do it again

Answer 9

Thank them, because that is all friendships are about are they not? And this person has waisted less of your lifetime by showing you that they cant be yours truely. O and you are truley welcome dear.

Answer 10

their really not your friend,and you'll never be able to trust them again.