How do you discipline your kids?

Question

Maybe with detailed examples..and be sure to list the kids ages and whether they are boys or girls....thank you so much....we are looking for good ideas for my son and my sisters kids....They are 21 mos boy, 3 boy, and 5 girl.....thanks

Answer 1

Well it depends on the circumstance.I have a 14 year old,10 nearly 11 year old,and a 3 year old.When my daughters were younger,I would give them time out,or take away their favourite toy for a day or 2,and explain to them why I have done this. this is what I do with my son now too.Now that the girls are getting older,again depending on what they have done,I either,take away their phone privileges,computer privileges, t.v privileges,take their stereo out of their rooms,or if my eldest is late without a good explanation,I don't allow her to go to whatever her next outing is,whether it's a party,if if she had planned to stay at a friends house on the weekend.Thank god I haven't had to do these very often,because I think from a very early age they have learn that there are always going to be consequences for their actions,whether the consequences are bad or good.I have never raised a hand to my children,not because I don't believe in it,I have never had a need to.I hope I was of some help.take care.

Answer 2

This is a very difficult question to answer because every situation and child is different. Just try to remember that kids are just doing what kids do. The children that you are asking about seem a little to young to be "disciplined", If by discipline you mean some sort of punishment for their actions. If children are hitting for example, you may tell the person who is being hit to look the hitter in the eye and say" I do not like it when you hit me" Then ask the hitter to repeat what he/she has heard and ask them if they understand. Open communication is the best way to problem solve in a family. Also if you could give some specific examples of what you feel the children need to be "disciplined" for, the question would be easier to answer. Discipline may be the wrong word. If you want to discipline your child, you too must be disciplined. Always stick by what you say you are going to do. That is very good discipline.

Answer 3

Give a warning - that is not how to behave, if you do this again you will get time out. So what happens if you do this again??? (to make sure they understand) and then always follow through with your promises...

time out is always in the same place for 2 minutes using a timer.

We always give our son (6 y/o) an opportunity to correct his actions before he is punished. For example, if he throws a fit because I say no to him having candy, I say, what would be a better way to earn a piece of candy?" And if he answers, says he's sorry and stops the tantrum, he doesn't have to go on time out.

If he's just being a brat and still throwing a fit, he gets 2 mins time out. He has to be silent and still, otherwise he gets 30 seconds added on for each offense. Unfortunately, he's had to sit on time out for up to 20 minutes a couple of times because he wouldn't stop the tantrum. He now knows better! Behavior is usually stopped in the 2-4 minute range for us. it's also important to not talk to the child or respond to him while on time out. The only response we ever give is "30 more seconds" if necessary.

Answer 4

It depends on what they do. My son is 5 and he is so full of energy, my niece is 4 and she's the little drama queen. They are only 7 months apart and around each other everyday. Basically they get time-outs for 5 minutes and if they keep running their mouths while their in time-out they get an extra 2 minutes added on, or theirs always taking their favorite thing off them for the rest of the day, in my opinion sometimes you need to smack their behinds but it all comes down to what you feel is the correct punishment for what they did.

Answer 5

my son is 13 and my daughter 10. We talk to them and ground them as they are older. Why not try explaining what they have done wrong and try a naughty step for more serious misbehaving (as on suppernanny) or trying a chart for being good. I did that when they were younger and the thought of getting sticker and a treat for behaving worked really well. good luck.

Answer 6

I don't have kids but heres what i would do for you.

21month old...almost 2 years old, OK he should be learning right from wrong...Punish him, don't spank him or hit him, just come down to his level and tell him what he did was wrong and ask him to say sorry...if it happens again give him a time out.

3 year old boy...same

5year old...pretty much the same thing..but maybe ask her why she did it.

Answer 7

I think age doesn't matter, start as soon as possible,to be a good example, explain everything you can,when they have
Q.,cause kids are more sensitive than you can imagine.
Always think about,how you would feel if you were them,
than start teaching, what they need to learn, to obey the right way!

Answer 8

send them to the corner!

Discipline Techniques that Often Backfire*

-Embarrassing -Repeating commands
-Humiliating -Pleading, begging
-Spanking (physical punishment) -Ordering
-Taking away favored things -Nagging
-Punishing psychologically -Labeling
-Engaging in power struggles -Arguing
-Rewarding misbehavior -Threatening
-Giving in to undue commands -Being vague
-Allowing child to manipulate adult -Fussing
-Saying what you don't mean -Being inconsistent
-Expecting child to read your mind -Losing your cool
-Allowing dangerous, destructive, -Making child feel guilty
embarrassing behavior to continue

*Discipline Techniques that Work*
-Following through with what you say -Being consistent
-Modeling appropriate behavior -Being firm yet kind/fair
-Clearly stating expectations before -Giving a child a choice
child has engaged in undesirable act only when you intend to
-Rewarding positive behavior and to accept that choice
ignoring negative behavior (except -Making the child feel
when dangerous, destructive, or worthwhile, liked and
embarrassing) successful
-Providing consequence for misbehavior -Providing when/then
immediately after undesirable act is statements; "When you
performed have...then you may."
-Providing if/then statements; "If you -Abuse it/lose it
have...then you may." -Redirecting misbehavior
-Removing child from the -Shaping non-existent
situation behaviors

Answer 9

try watching the tv series super nanny! she is awesome at teaching about disciplining kids.

Answer 10

I think the most effective dicipline is to tell your kids your disapointed in them when they do something wrong.......They seem to hate that, and will do anything to make you proud of them.