Last winter a family (about mid jan ) moved into the 4 doors down from me .they had been there for about a week .when this happen.i got home from work about 8 ish .and their car lights were on .it was parked a little down from their house .i looked out an hour later and it was still on .i knocked their door to tell them .the wife openned the door .before i could say anything ,she said hold on .called to guy saying someones at the door .he shouted who is it she shouted back some black guy .he then replied tell him to f..k off ..i didn't wait to be tolded .and went back indoors .saying nothing to anyone not even my wife .In the morning my wife saw then .he was late for work cos his car wouldn't start ..he asked my wife if we had any jump leads .he had lent his out he told her .he was very polite .my wife is white .when my wife came and asked me to help the new couple their car won't start.told her no .said why and went to work .was i wrong .she says i should of been the bigger person
2006-11-02 07:06:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
You did right,
the reason these people treat others like a**holes is because they don't get a taste of their own medicine, they think others are too scared. good on you, it proves that.....REVENGE IS A DISH, BEST SERVED COLD!!
2006-11-02 07:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Coley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes on some occations i think you wife is right, it is better to be the bigger person especially in cases of bullying and when you are dealling with someone you need to have contact with on a regular basis ie a work collegue, but seeing as he has the obvious attitude of a racist pig and is someone you would now know not to be a potential friend and only lives 4 doors down i would say f**k him but at least you now know his true attitude and where you stand. No don't help him and if asked why tell the truth.
2006-11-02 15:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologies to your wife but I think you did exactly the right thing, it costs nothing to be polite and the colour of your skin should not be a factor. The person who needs to be a bigger person is your new nieghbour who should say sorry the first chance he gets. If I was you I would think twice about accepting it but then I suppose your wife would say you were as bad as him. Accept an apology if one is offered (which I doubt) and let by gones be by gones. If you don't get one then it's his loss to have made a friend.
2006-11-02 15:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Shredder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have left a note on their door or car saying I stopped by last night to tell you your car lights were on.
I would have helped the guy in the morning,if my wife had asked.
but I wouldn't have said a word to the guy.
2006-11-02 15:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by handymandanvt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You behaved like an utter gentleman in the circumstances. He was an utter pig in his behaviour and you should not be blamed for not wanting to help him further after what happened. Nobody has the right to speak to you like that, irrespective of who you are or what they are. You already WERE the bigger person by walking away and not reacting aggressively as most people would.
2006-11-02 15:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nikita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to be angry and hurt, but by helping them you could have changed their attitudes and shown them that they were wrong about you in the first place, and diffusing any future hostility, and also created a better, friendlier neighborhood. By not helping, you confirmed their worst misconseptions.
2006-11-02 15:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by orphanannie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut up!! i cant believe they did that! I would be madder than a wet hen! In fact, I think I would have said "yes, Im the "black guy" you told to **** off when I came to tell you you'd left your lights on motherfucker!" (ok, i would probably not have said motherfucker) but it just goes to show - reap what you sow baby.
2006-11-02 15:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by jellybean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife was rite you don't know the whole story of what was going on in there house the night before and the jump start would have been a good time to explane why you were at his Dore the night before and boy would he have felt a fool
2006-11-02 15:44:30 · answer #8 · answered by stirling silver 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you are in the right. Some people you cant be nice to and sometimes it is good to give someone a taste of their own medicine. He was very rude to you so I feel you are right on this one.
2006-11-02 15:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by parrothead2371 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would have reacted the way you did. I know what we "should" do but it is sure hard to help someone who hates for no reason. It makes you wonder if YOU needed a jump would he give you one?? I doubt it.
2006-11-02 15:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Stiletto ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋