i accidentally said something mean about a person (not a friend, a teacher i respect) to one of my friends.. the thing is im almost 100% sure the teacher heard me because he was near by and i didnt noticed him til my friend told me descretely.. ididnt mean what i said AT ALL, it was just one of these moments where u take it out on the first person you think of.. this teacher is someone i really respect and i fould feel really bad if he changed his impression of me.. i will in NO WAY go talk to him, because im not sure if he heard.. i haven't been able to forgive myself since this morning.. what should i do to stop thinking about this and beating myself up about it??
FYI : what i said to my friend was not rude.. i just said i couldnt stand him.. :(((((((((
2006-11-02 07:04:04 · 23 answers · asked by hedZy ♀ The Dancing Banana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its just that im his best student and he used to like me alot as a student
2006-11-02 07:09:14 · update #1
Go and say you are sorry. You will feel much better afterwards.
2006-11-02 07:06:11 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would say you could show your appreciation for him by just being a good student. Show up on-time, be active in class, maybe at the end of the year give him a thank you card. Whats done is done, if you really respect him then that with come out with time and he will notice. If he did hear you and he is an open minded teacher then I am sure he understands different situations, he has probably done the same thing in his life at one time or another. I guess now you know to think before you speak.
2006-11-02 15:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by blueskys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all make mistakes, you were in a bad mood and said the first thing that came to mind. Go to that teacher and tell the truth,that you really didnt mean it and you do respect him. If you dont get this straightened out you will have a hard time the rest of the year. IF HE IS A GOOD TEACHER HE WILL UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE ONLY A CHILD
2006-11-02 15:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by jo h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he knows that you're just a kid who was venting. I was a substitute teacher for a while, and I substituted for this one teacher on a number of occasions. I corrected one of the most popular girls because she was bullying another girl. She got upset and turned to another girl and said that she couldn't wait for their real teacher to come back. It kinda hurt my feelings for a split second, but I realized that she was just angry. At the end of the day, as I was saying good-bye to all of the students, she ran over to me and gave me a big hug. I felt really good about that. I wouldn't recommend hugging your teacher with the crazy things going on these days. But when you go back into his class tomorrow, I would recommend that you make a point of passing by his desk and saying "Good Morning/Afternoon" and smile. He will get the point; that you didn't mean what you said today.
2006-11-02 15:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often have students who take out their frustrations by blaming me.
It doesn't bother me because I know how they perform and behave most of the time, and that sometimes, when an assignment or concept is more challenging, that they are just venting some frustration. If you are normally very respectful, this one instance will not bother your teacher.
If you really feel bad, tell your friend (within earshot of your teacher) that you were just frustrated, and that you really appreciate how your teacher explained the assignment. Even if he didn't hear you say you couldn't stand him before, it won't hurt for him to hear a little praise.
2006-11-02 15:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by Aunty Social 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Teachers are people and have feelings too. Obviously you know this or you wouldn't feel so bad. So heres my advice:
if you got a card, even if you made one, letting him know what a great teacher he is, it'll make you feel better and him too. This way you won't be ratting yourself out if he didn't hear you. And if he did hear you, I'm sure he'll know that was your way of making an apology without saying anything at all!
Good luck!!!
2006-11-02 15:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by glisten1975 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had something like this happen and it trouble me for years but it was my guidance counsellor i said Mr *&^%has blown his fuse cause it rhymed and it sounded funny i thought and was trying to make friends adnyway he herd me and i truend red adn he never said anything ever andi respected him a great deal and still do
I jsut learned to look harder before saying stuff but if that teacher doesnt bring it up drop it and if they do justt say sorry and move on
2006-11-02 15:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Bud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think he heard or not, just go apologize anyway. say...
Mr smith, i don't know if you heard this or not but i just want to say I'm sorry , i didn't mean it and respect you as a teacher and a friend.. not only respect you for it will make you feel better and just improve you as a person too
2006-11-02 15:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by m t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure your teacher really don't care he's not there for people to like him he is there to teach you something he probably has heard worst so just ask God for forgiveness and call it a day
2006-11-02 15:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That was not mean I mean come on I thought you said something really bad ! From now on just watch what you say and btw your friend may be blowing smoke .
2006-11-02 15:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just go up to that teacher and ask if he heard what you said..... and if he did then apologize to him and tell him you were having an off day and that you werent thinking about wat was coming out of your mouth.... its no big... he would probably respect you more for facing him and taking responsibility for your actions
2006-11-02 15:12:00 · answer #11 · answered by kirugia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋