My best friend is trying to push me into marrying my boy, and I'm tired of it, I've told her to but out and to mind her own bees wax, and on top of that I'm pregnant, and my boyfriend doesn't know, and I'm alittle scared to tell him, I know he'll freak out if I tell him, what to do?
2006-11-02 07:00:47 · 15 answers · asked by sweet heart 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My friend doesn't know yet I haven't even told my parents, and I want them to know before my friends. 1st my boy. 2nd parents and family 3rd. friends. and I know he won't leave.
2006-11-02 07:14:46 · update #1
and I'm keeping my baby.
2006-11-02 07:55:30 · update #2
Why is your best friend putting the pressure on? thats a little strange. Tell her that marriage is a big decision and one that you will perhaps do when it feels right, and about your boyfriend, talk to him calmly dont get over excited or really down about it, just tell gim like you were talking about the news, tht way he will be calm too. Do you want to marry him?
2006-11-02 07:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I think you should just tell your boyfriend. Your ganna have to do it sooner or later and sooner is best. I also want to tell you about my experiences, I don't know how old you are, but when I was 17 I got pregnant. I thought the right thing to do was marry my boyfriend of 2 years. It was actually the wrong thing to do, we divorced a year later. When you are young, marriage is hard. Your both immature and have not experienced life yet, this puts a big strain on a marriage. I am now 31 years old and I now realize that I was just to immature for that kind of commitment. I am not trying to be insulting, but jealousy, insecurity and trust issues do not make a good marriage. So that's why I don't recommend getting married unless you have a strong relationship. I think by you wanting to wait to get married is very smart. Having a baby doesn't mean run off and get hitched. I want to congratulate you on your pregnancy and I hope your boyfriend ends up being equally happy about this new miracle. Good luck to you sweetie. Just tell him, it will all work out in the end, you'll see.
2006-11-02 15:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you aren't ready to commit yourself to one man please don't get married. Talk to your boyfriend about how he would treat a baby and how he wants to go about having children. like "so what are your plans on having a kid?" or something. give it to him slow. if you wait until you are very far along and he gets angry and gets you upset, you could loose the baby. If he freaks on you give him time and if he doesn't agree to help raise it, then he's not worth it. the more stressed out you are, the bigger the risk you have of losing the baby. tell him asap. he needs to know. Now that you are pregnant all that matters is the baby. not him. if he didn't want a baby he shouldn't have had "it". lol. Good luck. stay calm and reasonable. give him time to adjust if he freaks out. Don't be mad at him if he is mad at you. STAY CALM!! if you love something let it go. if it comes back to you it's yours, if not, it never was.
2006-11-02 15:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by jolene62705 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she needs to grow up and stop trying to push someone in a direction that you dont want to go! Hunny the worst thing the boy will do is leave!! If he loves you he will be there for you!! You need to sit him down and talk to him and tell him look i know we werent planning on it but it happened and i'm pregnant and i want to know if your going to be there with me through it all!! If you dont tell him soon then your friend might and i think you need to be the one that tells him!! good luck and best wishes
2006-11-02 15:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jst try not to listen to your friend i know tht it will be hard, but if u don't feel ready to marry him then thats up to you and NO ONE ELSE! you will have to tell your boyfriend sometime that you are pregnant, im sure it is scary but he should understand because it takes two for you to become pregnant, maybe it will come as a shock to him as it would anyone but once he over comes the shock he will have calmed down and the weight of telling him will be of your chest! good luck! hope alll goes well for you!
2006-11-02 15:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by amy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's bugging you just try to avoid her. Make sure you don't tell her about the baby though, I'm sure she'll tell your boyfriend. If you are not ready to get married, you should never let anyone talk you into it. It has to be right if you want it to last. CONGRATS ON THE BABY!
2006-11-02 15:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to your best friend, having a baby is not a reason to get married. First thing, you must tell the baby's father. Next, you should seek some counseling, I get the impression that you're young. Raising a baby is very hard work. Please seek some guidance.
2006-11-02 15:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jezzer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not ready for marriage, then definetly don't tell your boy, and go and speak to a doctor about all of your options. break it off with your boy, tell your friend where to go and how to get there and tell your parents, they will be able to help you more than your friends can. Trust me, Congrats on your baby and good luck.
2006-11-02 15:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend should definetely know. But do your parents know? They need to know to. Don't marry someone if you are too young ot make the decision for yourself.
2006-11-02 15:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do now. Sooner or later he will notice that you gained 120 lbs. tell him after you get his social security number. You will need it to file the Child support paper work after he runs to the hills.
2006-11-02 15:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋