was dating ths guy , and one day I text messaged him about my earrings, and then left him a voicemail explaining that i needed to know if they were at his house,because i was wearing them to go on a date, he text messaged me five minutes later and told me not to call him anymore, because he did not like me and that he would tell my sorority sisters about our relationship...and he would tell other people as well, and that I should know that he has a girlfriend and she is a member of my sorority(who happens to be his best friend).. the next day ... who is one of my sorority sisters calls me and invites me to an event that he was hosting? What do you think was the cause of his behavior and do you think she knows something, or maybe he told her something,?Or was it a coincidence that she calls me asks me to go out with her after I ahdn't heard from her in over eight months
2006-11-02 06:54:44 · 13 answers · asked by Virgo1980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well. ..as far as our relationship...we weren't exclusively together...but at the same time, I was n't really dating anyone else,I didn't think he actually cared, but as far as their relationship, he told me they were just good friends,...and from what i understand...he's not attracted to her in that way..but they grew up together
2006-11-02 07:08:55 · update #1
And I even heard that...they're not friends anymore...I don't know why..but it had to be serious if they're not speaking anymore..
2006-11-02 07:11:24 · update #2
people keep saying that she was trying to set me up..but set me up how?
2006-11-02 07:13:39 · update #3
It's obvious that something is missing in your story because you jumped from sending a text to leaving him voicemail. Did you repeatedly call him. Anyway, that's beside the point. I do believe that your sorority sister knows something. You and the guy should just let things go. This is childish...he's childish, you're childish. So, move on. Just tell your sorority sister that you aren't interested in going to the guy's party or anything by him. You can then ask her that since she's going to be at his place could she do you a favor and help you get your earrings back because you need them for a date.
She is your Sister so, for the sake of Sisterhood, she would forgive you or let it go if you are truly over the guy.
JUST DON'T GO TO THE PARTY because it sounds like a SET UP!
2006-11-02 07:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by tinucoker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casual dating is a very complicated thing, even two people who casually date each other can get jealous of the other people that the b/f or g/f is dating. Love and relationships rarely work out unless they are monogamous (sex or not) which means devotion to just one person. It is really hard to tell what he told her, unless you outright ask her, though I don't know if your dating this guy was behind this girlfriend's back.
Flat out ask her if she had talked to him and what about. Maybe coming clean and telling her that you dated him. Honesty may be hard, and it may hurt but it is always the best route. Just think, it is a whole lot better than wondering, eh?
2006-11-02 15:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by newcovenant0 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? Get your earrings back and stop calling the guy. He doesn't like you. And, be a grown up and ask your sorority sister if she has any problems with you. If so, talk it over and resolve your issues. Let's make grown-up decisions from now on and no more drama.
2006-11-02 14:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by GK2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he got pissed you said you were going on a date with someone else, so he made his relationship with the other girl sound like a big deal, then probably paid a lot of attention to the other girl to make her into an actual girlfriend. The girl calling has to know about you. Trying to befriend your enemy is a classic move. She wants to make you her friend so she can know what you are up to.
2006-11-02 15:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by misssomers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may have saw the text and he reacted that way out or guilt.Sounds a bit off the wall.Good thing you got out.,but sounds like she may have gotten the message and thought something new was going on.Dont get the "I will tell " part though.She probably wanted to rub their relationship in your face,as if you cared.Maybe thats the cause for the invite.Or she maybe investigating further.
2006-11-02 15:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by migamw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this issue is confused, is he the only guy on campus, there are so many issues at play here. I'm gonna have another beer, maybe with a muddled head I can figure this out. As the campus turns or general campus or campus 90120
2006-11-02 15:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by jess g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I do not understand is did you or did you not know he had a girlfriend? If so..oh well this is a reprecussion so deal with it. If you didnt know then you should have gone directly to his girlfriend (in your sorority) and tell her you didn't know he had a girlfriend. I also don't know why he would want to tell on himself. but oh well.
2006-11-02 15:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, did you have a relationship with him? and then you called to ask for your earrings to go on a date? sounds like you need to pick one person, and be careful.
2006-11-02 14:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I think she knows something.. Maybe he told her that he still likes you so she invited you to go because she wanted him to be able to spend time with you..
2006-11-02 14:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by Cassey L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like maybe she's setting you up for a beat down.
2006-11-02 15:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by brwn_id_grl_4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋