so i just moved in with my boyfriend. i'm staying with him another week and then we are suppose to move into an aprtment together. last night we went to a bachelors party and told me he'd be home about midnight and he'd call if it was going to be later. i got no phone call and he came home at 4am!!!! i feel that is ridiculous! now i'm rethinking if we are ready to move in together. am i blowing this out of proportion?
2006-11-02 06:53:21 · 13 answers · asked by jessi220542 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just like you, he is not used to living with someone. It was not right of him to stay out without calling, but he is probably still getting used to the idea of having someone he has a responsibility to. You both just need time to adjust. Make sure you talk to him about how much this bothered you. That might be all you need to do to keep this from happening again.
2006-11-02 07:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, do you trust him? If not I wouldn't move in together. I'm not going to say your blowing it out of proportion, just leave a little room for error but, you don't have to keep putting up with it either. If he continues in the same pattern, then that would definately throw up some red flags. Go with your gut! Good luck!!!
2006-11-02 15:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by glisten1975 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He does need to stick to what he tells you he is going to do. But we all know how it is when we are with our friends. Time flies! If he makes a habit of not doing what he says you may want to rethink the move but if he doesn't I say cut him some slack.
2006-11-02 15:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get mad. you are now living together. which means you can do whatever he does and he can't get mad! so if he is okay with YOU coming home at 4am in the morning.....then woman...you better party on!
i say you just do exactly what he did. when he tries to say something, remind him that he went out and stayed out that late and you assumed it was okay for you to do so too! then let him respond.
2006-11-02 15:05:26 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a bit over board on this one. A Bachelors party will have naked woman, drink and drugs. Unless you smelled sex on his body, the nature of the event will keep guys very captivated.
2006-11-02 15:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Present to him this situation:What would he do if that were you coming in at 4a.m.Theres NO excuse especially where he was and what he was doing.That is very trusting of you to allow him to go with no fuss and then he in turn LIES to you.No that is not right.And if there is not a repercussion he will continue to do these things to you if he knows you wont stand up for yourself.
2006-11-02 15:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by migamw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not. If you don't address this problem now, he will continue the same behavior later on. Talk to him now. In a nice friendly unthreatening way. If he refuses to talk or act badly, then I'd reconsider moving in together.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-02 15:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tracianne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! he told you a time and also stated that if he wasn't home by that time he would call. He did neither, and by him doing that it has gotten you upset which you are well with in your right to be. He caused this by his actions, now he has to get back right with you.
2006-11-02 14:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Main thing is the trust. Coming later is no reason for getting angry. Talk to you bf and sort this out in a cool nice way.
Also see http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Apay3h1K1zXHzjAXLioeJu7zy6IX?qid=20061102123355AAjA7ou
Good luck!
2006-11-02 15:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with Haki!! And you need to get use to the fact that men don't always think about our feelings especially when there out drinking and partying with there friends!!! I wouldn't have expected him to call..smiles.
2006-11-02 15:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jenah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋