We have a 15month old son together, which is why we got married. I'm 22 and he's 32, this is his second marriage. When we were dating he lied to me about smoking when he was getting them from my brother, I found out because he accidently said something about it in front of me, he lies about porn (which we watch together) and he does it on his own, even after swearing on our marriage he wouldn't...
2006-11-02 06:50:46 · 25 answers · asked by tears_of_regret84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah men and women go thru odd stages if u havent u will 2 well either u love him or u dont now a good test is what would u do if u seen him walking down the street with his arm around amother women? if that pushes ur hot button then keep him if not sooooooo long
2006-11-02 06:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him about his lying, if he wants to make an honest effort then get some help but if not, I'm not an advocate for divorce but there is no need in subjecting yourself & your child to his foolishness. You've only caught him in the small lies what about the potentially big ones that you just have'nt found out about yet? Im a firm believer that relationships are founded on honesty & trust & if you don't have these with him how can you be with him? I understand wanting a stable environment to raise your child but marrying him just because you got pregnant was not the answer & you now have to do whats best for your child & lead by example.
2006-11-02 07:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a pathological liar and will be for the rest of his life. My ex hub was the same way. He lied about EVERYTHING. Even things that weren't even worthy of a lie. The BEST thing I did was decide NOT to raise my kids with him...sadly 3 of my 4 kids are also his but I know my boys are sooooooooooooo much better off. You married him for the wrong reason so I advise you to get out of the relationship. Don't use the kid as an excuse because the kids doesn't know whats going on.
2006-11-02 06:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
these don't appear to be very large and troublesome problems. Granted being untruthful isn't a very good point one can have. However....why does he find it necessary to lie? Quite frankly...I smoke...you don't like it...sorry...tough. I smoke outdoors and I am very clean when it comes to field stripping butts. As far as porn goes...watching it together is grand. So ask him..."what are you looking at while I'm not here...lemme see". Have you found he's checking out kiddie stuff? maybe alittle animal action eh? Really...what's he checking out that has you so concerned? Or is it the simple fact he can't tell you the truth when you've asked him a question?
2006-11-02 06:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has a serious problem. I hope you'll find if there's hope by being willing to help him fix it. Go to newlife.com and get the info about "Every Man's Battle" - there's resources there for women too. Porn is very bad for your marriage and degrading to you whether you watch it together or separately. It is not God honouring and will destroy you both along with your marriage. I hope you'll get into marital counseling - which is also available through the above website. God bless you both - I hope you make it work for both your sake's and your son's. There is hope. ~Nise~
2006-11-02 06:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by newfsdrool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sI would say that any type of relationship should be built on trust with a lot of other things. But if you don't trust the person you are will and keep telling yourself over and over that he can't be doing that, then its time to get rid of him. To much stress in your life worrying about your child and what he is doing, is not what you need. The most important thing that you need to concentrate on is your child and you. Why do men think they have to lye to cover up for something, all it does is just make things worse. I feel for you, but you do what your heart tells you and what you think is best for you and your child. But believe me if he does it once, he will keep doing it until you put an end to it. Hope this helps. GOOD LUCK your going to need it.
2006-11-02 06:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by mightyone79072 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are in a bit of a situation. Try to get some marital and spiritual counselling (whatever your faith is). You said you got married because of your son? God forbids if your son shall is no longer in the picture, would you still be married?
Do try to get some counselling and build on your marriage.
2006-11-02 06:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by Snow Brown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to get out of that relationship. There are plenty fish in the sea babe! "A liar's not a lover." You are young, go spread your wings and fly! I suggest you look into a divorce but make sure you have suport from family and friends so you are able to stand on your own two feet and support your kid.
2006-11-02 06:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by aluminum22rocker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So WHY are you with him? And don't say for the child because I can't think of a worse role model. Dump the guy. Go it alone and you will find someone much better. He is HOLDING YOU BACK. I'm embarrassed for you to even ask this question. You should know you are better than this. ATTENTION ALL GIRLS: GET A BACK BONE!!!!
2006-11-02 06:55:47 · answer #9 · answered by GK2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!! I'm in a similar situation. These thing should have been resolved before you got married. IMO...getting married because you were pregnant was a mistake and you're his 2nd wife??
What was the reason for his divorce to his 1st wife?
2006-11-02 06:56:15 · answer #10 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋