I have a high string, dominant personality and very talkative. My husband has a low key persoanlity peaceful and talks when needed. The last thing I want to be is a burden to him or be his "mommy" What Can I do to support and encourage my husband as he is going through a lot of adjustments and a hard time at work?
2006-11-02 06:43:30 · 7 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to take a step back. Listen to your husband if and when he wants to talk. Sometimes people just want us to listen to them and not offer any advice. You can learn to be a listener when needed and not be so wordy. You can encourage him without telling him what to do, follow his lead, again, you have to learn how to listen and key in on the important things that he is trying to convey to you and build from there.
2006-11-02 11:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I sound kinda like you.. You know what tho? you sound like a damn teriffic woman! (yeah, I like ya.. what's not to like?) You sound like people cut YOU down too (like they do me.) Talkative, the name sounds bad.. you are a 'social butterfly!' (like me!) The low-key husband I don't now about.. My husband is not educated, and kind of a control freak.. (hope you are in a better situation.) He says "I DO love you" (so what? I think after a while.. do you care if I love YOU? guess not.) ha..I think it's nice you want to encourage and support him w/adjustments.. Sounds good. Is he or has he encouraged you tho? What I am leading up to here is why beat yourself up for not feeding this guy the right lines? (If this is not what you are doing, I apologize.. I said I am identifying w/you somewhat.) You ARE a good wife already! I guess the first sentence.. 'how can i bet a BETTER wife..' turns me off a bit.. I mean you sound like a swell one to me already! (Has HE got any complaints? You sound like you're failing somehow here.. maybe you are too hard on yourself?) I am trying to help, believe me.. I am not into cutting strangers, especially other women, down, believe me! You know I find you cannot do too much personally about the spouse's 'work situation.' He is a man.. he has to handle it. IF he wants to discuss it with you? Well, then be as sweet as you can.. he knows you cannot jump in and change anything.. It IS kinda of nice to just have someone that loves you to 'air your grievances to..' (That's probably all he is doing.. Is it all that bad there?) I know jobs are kind of hard to get where I live.. (my sons are sweating it, keeping their jobs right now, in Michigan..) Make it fun at home for him! Just cook something he likes at night.. you know the guy. What's he like to do? If he just wants to sit and stare the t.v. (I get that a LOT with the hubby.. it bores me.. that's another yahoo question I've got) let him! I don't think my husband and I have squat in common together but a kid/house (but that's enough.. it keeps me here..) I hope you two have some other common interests .. i found out (too late) how much that helps! g'luck, luv..
2006-11-02 15:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehe. . .I am very much like you, and my hubby is very much like your husband. But we work well together. In private, we talk about everything. Every decision that is made, he has just as much input about it as I do. It's just that in public it seems like I wear the pants in the relationship. But, it's completely false. I just happen to express myself better verbally than my husband does.
The best thing you can do to support him is to turn of the talk, and listen more. I had to learn that, because I wasn't much of a listener before I met my honey. And encourage him in fighting his own battles at work. It helps when you give him some ideas on how to word the things he wants to say.
2006-11-02 14:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prise him, encourage him, tell him how you are proud of him, boost his ego with love and admiration streaming from your eyes, ask his advise on different subjects. Respect his opinion. That's for the start. Later try to learn how to listen.
2006-11-02 14:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him and when he decides to open up and talk then listen
2006-11-02 14:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well try to be more soft with him and be charming and sweet with him.......take him out and have fun togetherâ¥â¥â¥â¥â¥â¥â¥â¥âº
2006-11-02 15:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no man wants a wife telling him what to do so let him know how much he is appreciated at home.
2006-11-02 14:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by liberty m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋