He is 19 yrs. older than me and has two children from his previous marriage. He sold his house, so he doesnt have his own property, very distrustful of everybody, has jelous tendencies. On the other side he has his business and treats me good. I don't want no more children since I have one already from my previous marriage. Should I marry him or not?
2006-11-02 06:43:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only you know if he makes you truly happy. I think if you have to ask us for opinions, then something inside you is giving you the red light already. Listen to your inner voice. It's never wrong.
2006-11-02 06:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his 19 years older than you, and distrustful as well as jealous, you shouldn't marry him just because he treats you good. Most men treat women well before marriage. That's no guarantee that he'll keep on treating you well after being married. Love, respect and trust should be the only reasons to marry someone. Hope it helped.
2006-11-02 14:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't say don't marry him. But do keep your eyes open to the fact that he is distrustful of people and has jealous tendencies. Those types of issues can snowball before you know it. The jealousy thing is serious.
2006-11-02 14:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, but have at it. It's your decision...
I see red flags!!!!
Very distrustful...
Jealous tendencies...
Doesn't own any property..
In that order. The first two concern me, A LOT!!! I see unwarranted accusations toward you... Maybe abuse from a jealous outburst...
YIKES!!! I say NO!! but like I said, it's YOUR decision. Personally I would never want to be with ANYONE who didn't trust me.
2006-11-02 15:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even have to read the end of your question. If you ask someones opinion the answer is NO. Why will you marry someone with nothing but baggage, ex-wife, child support, and forever bonding with the past?
But we women are going to do what we want to do regardless what everyone else say or opinion. Do you really are going to follow our advice? If not, you will have to live your own experience.
2006-11-02 14:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If in your head you are hearing warning alarms sounding off... then do not marry him.
See how he interacts with others; listen what others say of him. Have you seen him interact with his children?
He could have a business and treat you well but all could change once you get married. If you are having doubts now and have concerns you probably should not get married.
2006-11-02 14:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful if he has jealous tendacies. ask yourself if you want to have to answer to him for every second you are at the store doing grocery shopping, or at the salon getting a haicut. He'll probably ask you what took you so long, and figure you are cheating on him even if you aren't!! I should know. I married a man like that. I love him very much, but if I had to do it over again, my answer would be "NO WAY"!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-02 14:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tracianne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has some issues to work on. You may need bring this to his attention if you haven't so already. Just be straight up with him and tell... I love you but I can't handle the mistrust and the jealousy. I'm so for whatever happened to you in the past but I'm not you ex of whoever. If you can't trust me, then we don't need to be together.
You know, a lot of relationships will be more successful if everybody just be straight up about their feelings.
2006-11-02 14:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by gloried 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That decision is yours and yours alone. If you love the man and you know that he loves you then do what you feel in your heart. I have learned in the past to go with your gut if you hear a voice telling you no don't do it listen to yourself because you know yourself better than anyone. Just be careful and know that is who you want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-11-02 14:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based upon your description of him, I'm not getting a good feeling about this guy. Do you really think you'll be happy with him for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?
2006-11-02 14:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋