I have a major problem. I am still very deeply in love with my ex-husband. We have been divorced for over 3 years - and hardly a day goes by when I don't miss him. We have 2 daughters together and I have 2 sons with my "new" man - and I am pregnant with another baby - due in April. So, obviously have both moved on and are both in serious relationships now with someone else - and there is no chance that we will get back together. But for some reason I cannot let go of the idea that he was the one for me and that I will never feel whole again. I know that this is not fair to the man I am with now. I deeply regret that- but really I don't think he has any idea. We have our own problems - and sometimes I think that I just cannot fully give myself to him because my heart is still broken and I still love my ex.
How do I let go of all this and move on?? I want to REALLY love again, to feel whole again and I want to BE HAPPY. How do I do this with all of these unresolved feelings??
2006-11-02 06:41:41 · 8 answers · asked by hunnyimissu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know you would love for me to just give you a simple answer and your problem would be solved....well it's not that simple. Me and my ex boyfried are kind of going through the same thing. I have a new boyfriend and everything but like you i don't feel whole and i miss him. Well the best answer i can give you is you can't forget a love like that that means so much to you. He will always be in your thoughts and you will always feel like you need him. But you just have to think that your decision was the best option and try not to think about all of the regrets but think about the happy times your having now.
2006-11-02 06:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Miranda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As weird as his name is Jerdy right just do it silly!
It's unfair to treat the man your with now like sloppy seconds because you refuse to let go.
Think about how would you feel if he did the same and you found out he was in love with his first baby momma still? Hello!
Come on, stop thinking of the pass, stop playing those old songs that you and your ex listen too and start looking forward and thinking about all the good stuff you guys have together.
Well I don't know....maybe umm the two boys and the baby on the way. Grow old with new memories and let that fill the hole in your chest and wrap you around like a new song, so you, your man, and brand spankin' new love kids could dance with you in your new song! Amen.
2006-11-02 07:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're gonna need therapy - you didn't fully grieve the end of your marriage so you have these unresolved issues & you will never be able to move forward without putting closure to those feelings - sorry, i think at this point only a therapist can help. good luck.
2006-11-02 06:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into some counseling. You didn't allow yourself time to grieve the first marriage before you bounced into this relationship. It can work if you make up your mind to be committed to the new marriage (if you're not married - GET married) - no options. It really the best thing for ALL involved now. God bless you. ~Nise~
2006-11-02 06:46:11 · answer #4 · answered by newfsdrool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling would be the best place to start! It can really help. I divorced after 22 years of marriage and went through counseling and it really did help!
2006-11-02 06:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Robin L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no magic "forget him" pill that you can take.
You need to focus on the relationship that you have right now and focus on your children.
2006-11-02 06:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To late darling......you have to stay focus in you new family a lot of kids!!!! I dont have an idea how you have time to think about your ex.......amazing.........âºâ»âºâ»âºâ»
2006-11-02 06:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it!
2006-11-02 06:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋