I have a husband and two kids, ages 2 and 4. I have wanted to do my MSW for a long time but it would involve relocating everyone to another province for two years. My husband has always said he would support me, but now that I'm serious about it, he says he won't go because he is happy where we are. I don't know if I should just accept this or try to persuade him to relocate so I can go back to school. I would rather not do a degree my correspondence, but it might be the only way. Any advice?
2006-11-02 06:38:31 · 3 answers · asked by principessa 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
You need to choose a college or two, visit them and return with information about why those would be great places to live for two years. Find stuff he likes: a hockey team, good weather, job opportunities in his field, shorter commute times, etc. Talk about how moving there would also benefit your kids. You can't just expect him to support your idea of moving somewhere without knowing where that would be! What if you choose Nunavut? Or Baghdad? (Extreme examples I know, but you get the picture.) Remind him that moving young kids is a lot easier than moving older ones. Perhaps show him examples of the types of jobs you could get WHERE YOU CURRENTLY LIVE, if only you had an MSW (this would make the move feel even more temporary).
However, definitely don't give up your dream of getting that MSW. If it comes down to correspondance, do it that way. By the way, I live in Graduate Student Accomodation at the University of Calgary, and there are TONS of grad students living here while their spouse is back home. They're not the happiest bunch, but it's more common than you'd think!
2006-11-02 07:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are able to stay at home & raise your kids at this time, I say focus on that. I have struggled back & forth for years wanting to go back to school & get my master's too. I also considered an MSW. I have 3 kids & worked for most of their lives, missing out on a lot. I blinked my eyes & my two eldest are 13 & 11. Where did the time go? I am glad that I have had the opportunity to be home for the past 2 1/2 years with my 4 year old. I am still young & I am sure you are too. You still have time. Take this time to enjoy your children & it is very important for your husband to be in agreement with your decision. So don't push him if he is not in agreement at this time.
2006-11-02 15:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by ELIZABETH B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is something you want to do then your husband should support you on it. You could offer the alternative of you going there and he staying. Long distance is hard but that might help him to figure out what is important to him. You can also look for alternatives closer to you if there are any. It might help to make sure your husband will have a job at the new place and if you research daycare for your kids (and regular education as your older child will start kindergarten there) and show that the move will be at least semi beneficial for your family. That's a hard choice to make and I wish you luck.
2006-11-02 14:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Answers4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋