Okay. My husband went out 3 times this week to watch the game at bars till close (he doesnt drink much at all) And i want to goout with my friends this weekend and he says he wants to spend time with me. Well, hes been saying that a lot and we have been spending time togther a lot but i want to hang out with the girls this weekend. Well, HE went out, cant i? I always went to girls night out! We have it every other friday! I missed the last 2! Am i wrong for going?
2006-11-02 06:37:02 · 45 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think you're wrong. If spending time with you is so important then he could have given up one of his football nights and stayed home with you, or taken you out. I think now it's your turn and he feels jealous you're going out, so he's trying to make you feel guilty for wanting time out with the girls.
2006-11-02 06:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Giving up time with your friends is a no no. It could lead to losing your friends completely in the long run. Can you go out the same time your husband goes? Then you wouldn't miss any time with him & vise versa. If that's not possible, then by all means take the time to get out of the house & just have some fun. It's only 2 nights a month, which isn't much at all. I would sit & talk with him & try to come to some kind of compromise. On the Friday's that's girls night out, maybe he could go out those nights & the other 2 Fridays y'all could spend together.
2006-11-02 06:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. . .wrong for going? No, I don't think so. However, I find a problem in the fact that he's gone out to watch the game but expects you to stay at home now when you have a standing reservation to go out with the girls. Since you've missed two nights already, I highly think it's unfair of him to expect you to stay home this time.
However, you have to decide if it's worth the fighting with him if you go out. Or will it even cause a fight?
You can also leave early and come home to spend the later part of the evening with him. Have something nice planned and do it that way. Or maybe the gals can go out a little earlier or something.
2006-11-02 06:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You need to stay in touch with your girlfriends. If there's one thing I hate it's women who get married and then never see their friends again. If your husband was allowed to go out and watch games at sports bars with his friends, you should be allowed to go out with yours! Since marriage is about compromise, though, why don't you suggest that you two will do something romantic and special together when you get home from girls' night? Then he can look foreward to your homecoming. If you think you'll both be too tired to have any together time by the time you get home on Friday night, there's always Saturday night. You could suggest a "date" or just a special activity for the two of you for Saturday night. It's good to compromise, but it's never good to lose yourself and your friends in a marriage. Ultimately it will make you resent your husband if you don't get to go out without him every once in a while.
2006-11-02 06:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not married, so not sure if my answer will count.....
Do either of you work on the weekend? If not, then I think you should have plenty of time to "hang out" all day on Saturday and Sunday.
My girlfriend is cool with me just hangin out with my buds, especially since she is temporarily working nights right now. Although it sucks, I do get to see the guys more right now which is cool.
2006-11-02 14:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong.... Even though you are married, both party should have their own time doing their own things. He can go out with friends for drinks, why cant you... if he dont like you to go on weedend, go on weekday la.... maybe friday night.. then see what he can say.. if he still stop you from going out, you need a talk with him.. he is too much....!!!
2006-11-02 15:38:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, if you can't go out, then he shouldn't be able to either. He shouldn't be telling you if when and if you can go out. You are a grown women and can think for yourself even though you are married. Tell him you are going out. If he doesn't make time for you the nights that he goes out, then why make time for him that night? Plus, he went out 3 times, you are only going out once.
2006-11-02 07:18:56 · answer #7 · answered by *~*~*~* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONNY! You deserve to spend time with your friends the same that he does. Tell him, He goes out and stayes at bars, so you need time for yourself to be with the girls,. If he dont let you is because he is hideing something.I dont think he is just watching ball-games. Also, His friends will lie for him.Talk to him, If he cant let you go out with your friends., something is going on.I wouldnt trust him. Have some one to spy on him, then you will know for sure.
2006-11-02 07:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You missed the last two and if you start now, with him not letting you go, you will eventually never go. Trust me on this one. Tell him he should have stayed home with you one of the three nights this week that he went out. My husband never les me go out with my friends, but I let him do whatever he wants......
2006-11-02 08:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stay home when he wants you to spend time. Otherwise you will not get it.
Actually, you two ARE married, right, and you understand what that means, really? Are you planning to have kids? Better both mature a heck of a lot before then....
2006-11-02 08:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋