2006-11-02 06:35:45 · 34 answers · asked by tears_of_regret84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No way !
2006-11-02 06:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is little? "No honey I didn't drink the last of the tea" yet he really did or "No honey I didn't sleep with that woman" but really he did? If my husband has small lies about his past with women then I wouldn't care as long as it was before he and I, if he drank the tea and lied, I wouldn't care. Stuff like that. As long as it isn't something serious in nature I could care less. I have told my husband that I was cleaning all day before just to get a back rub, it's a small lie but it didn't hurt anyone. He has done the same to get his feet rubbed, again it didn't hurt anyone. So I guess what it boils down to would be, if it could cause harm then it's bad, if it's grounds for divorce (cheating) then it's bad but little childish things oh well.
2006-11-02 06:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband USED to have a bad problem with this! He said it was because he used to do this to his mother.
Well, the little lies started to turn into BIG lies. I finally did leave him. The good news is, we worked it out. I told him that if he couldn't get his life together then I don't have to be with him and I didn't want to be with him! Things have been really great ever since, it has been a year and a half. But if for some reason he ever goes down that road again, we will be finished, and he knows that.
I guess it depends on if they REALLY want to be with you or not.
2006-11-02 06:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by someoneoutthere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stop and think a minute, have you ever told a little white lie? You may not of wanted him to know or did it to protect him and not hurt his feelings or upset him? Keep in mind he may have done the same in your honor. On the other hand if lieing is the only pattern you see, then get out before your in to deep. A leopard never changes its spot you know. In all fairness, talk to him about this once you have all the facts. Assure him and show him he can tell you things without there being a fight or you getting upset in anyway. Alittle mystery in any relationship is ok, that is what keeps it exciting, besides we never as humans in general fully show ourselves. there are things we have all done or said or thought that we will take to our graves.
A good relationship should have trust and honesty and open communication with willingness to forgive and forget.
2006-11-02 07:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Beck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, after the first time I would warn him, cause that would have already hurt my trust. The second would probably do it for me. My fiancee lied to me once in the beginning of our relationship and I told him, if he ever did it again, I would be out the door. Now I am still sort of untrusting of him, but I am working on that. He has swore to me, that he will be honest from then on and I believe he has. He knows I am serious about leaving. Lying is one of my biggest pet peeves, I will not have it. I feel if I can tell him the truth, then he should give me the same respect.
2006-11-02 07:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that would depend on how much they're willing to put up with. Are the little things something to be real upset about? Why is the husband/bf lying about these little things? (chances are they're affraid to be completely open & honest about anything). I think sitting down with them & asking them why they feel it's necessary to lie about anything in the first place, & if they came up with something lame, I'd leave them. I wouldn't want to be with someone who lied to me about anything, even if they thought it would hurt my feelings. If it did, so be it! At least I'd know the truth. Lying only causes trust issues & I would want to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I could trust that person whole-heartedly with any & every thing including my life.
2006-11-02 06:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what the little things were. I don't know if I would trust him any more, but it would really depend on how important the things he lied about were. Then again, if he lied about the small things what would prevent him from telling a lie about the big things.
2006-11-02 06:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. How did you find out he was lying to you? The reality is little lies will eventually turn into bigger lies and really you are the only one that is gonig to get hurt. It is best to be honest with you husband/bf, tell him you know about his lying, offer him a moment to explain himself and tell him how his lying is affecting you. If the lying bothers you a lot or if the lies get bigger leave him.....but be honest and tell him you are leaving him because his has not been honest with you.
2006-11-02 06:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I wouldn't because of the simple fact that a lie is a lie no matter how small a person may think it is, serious damage could be done, and where is the trust... If you trust and love me like we said to one another then a lie would be the last thing a person would tell, because they already know all the damage it would cause.
2006-11-02 07:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by peaches 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now this is very important, was those little lies things you FOUND out, or was those little lies things he TOLD you to confess? Because there is a difference, if you found out about the little lies and he never told you, than there are many many many lies out there that could be so big, you wouldn't want to find out. A little lie to me is a BIG one!
2006-11-02 06:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well we all lie at one time or another - human nature.. but if he lied about little things and you found out on your own - it could only lead to bigger things! if he's 'confessed' then it 'may' be something he felt was more important to keep to himself and then felt guilty so he told you about it .. .which is better than not communicating at all... Lastly, if you feel he's lied about other things that are very important to you ie: infidelity, drugs, money... head for the hills! you'll never be able to truly trust him and your relationship is that of 'convenience' .... and not of friendship and love.. your partner should be your best friend...
2006-11-02 06:41:40 · answer #11 · answered by thenakats 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋