I am sure this is a normal phase or something, but I just want some advise. I was married two years ago, and now we are trying to get pregnant. (which we have been trying to do for 7 months now). Some days I think about what would happen if we have kids. And I get scared because sometimes I don't like my husband! Is that wrong? He just doesn't seem grown up enough to help me raise children and I wonder if that is why I haven't got pregnant yet. Do you think it is a sign that we should wait, because that is what some people are telling me.
2006-11-02 06:26:06 · 8 answers · asked by mamajess05 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sometimes i hate my husband too,... but as long as it is not becaus eof abuse dont worry, you married him for some reason... just rememeber that... Kids are great, we have 1 and another on the way, we have been together 3 years and have been married only one. But it has been great. just rememebr to devote some time to him... make him his faveorite foods, and if he doesnt show apreciation tward the small things you do, then talk to him. good luck, and you'll get prego.... just keep trying, at least trying is fun right?
2006-11-02 06:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Holly M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that I think it's a sign, but if you are already questioning your marriage, I think kids are the last thing you should be thinking about. They are a lot of work, and put a lot of strain on a relationship. If I were you I would hold off on having kids for at least a year. You are young you can have them any time. Enjoy being married first, then if it's right move on to having kids.
2006-11-02 15:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be love and hate but if you really feel that you hate him then to me that is not a healthy relationship. I really do think that you should wait and see wht happens with the relationship because having children does put even more stress on a relationship. Having children will not fix your marriage and if you are having problems now they may make it worse. I think you two should sit down and talk about your problems and try to work them out before having children.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
2006-11-02 14:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by emtff8017 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a sign...it took my husband and I 2 years to get pregnant again!!!!!!
Everyone doesn't like their husband sometimes...that seems to be a thing for our generation..getting divorced because "I'm just not happy!" I hate that line.......not that you said you want a divorce.
Everyone has those thoughts and gets scared sometimes....There are days where I think I should not have married my husband...rarely, but it is normal.
I'd consider seeing a therapist or a counselor.
2006-11-02 14:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by jm1970 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think alot of first-time parents aren't ready until that first child is born. My husband grew up alot after our first was born. Work on the relationship and don't worry about the raising yet. Things happen when they are supposed to, and worrying doesn't help a thing. Just try to grow together and work those communication lines.
2006-11-02 14:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's never too late to have kids, especially if you are doubting your relationship. I don't know how old you are, but if you are under 30, you have PLENTY of time... Wait it out. You can always say you want a more stable financial situation. Wait another year and see if your feelings change. :) Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-02 14:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sarasvah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't like your husband then i would say YeS wait too have kids people never feel read to have kids 100% but if you don't like him there is something really wrong with your relationship and you should never try to have kid's if you have problem's. because if they don't change now having a baby won't make it any different.
2006-11-02 14:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by baby.j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are questioning a relationship then its never good to bring children into that situation. It could just make for extra heartache in the future. Fix the relationship before making a family.
2006-11-02 14:29:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋