what should i do? im 14 and pregnant!?

Answer 1

If this is for real- if you thought you were mature enough to have sex, you should be mature enough to take care of a child! However, at 14, that is way young, because you are still a CHILD yourself. I think first you need to let your parents know. Second, once they know, you should discuss with them what they think you should do. If they think an abortion is the way to go, that may be the way to go. But there are so many couples out there that are unable to have their own children that would likely be happy to pay your medical expenses to continue a pregnancy and adopt once you have the child. See what your parents think you should do, and if you are afraid they might get mad or whatever, they probably will, but they will likely appreciate you telling them as opposed to allowing it to be unknown.

Answer 2

Kiss your life good bye!

Talk to your parents. You can't support this child at age 14.

If you are strong enough emotionally, atleast have the child and put it up for adoption is a choice. There are alot of people in this world who have been on waiting list for a child for years.

If your parents can't help and won't financially support you than give the baby a chance for a good life else where.

I have three kids and I am 33 and today..Its extremely hard with two Great Jobs to pay the bills.

Kids are hard work like you have never seen before in your life.

I love my kids don't get my wrong. I had my first one at 21 and I still think I was extremely too young to have a child at 21...

But 14? I have a 13, my oldest and she can't even remember to give the dog water let alone take care of a newborn.

Answer 3

Seriously. You are very young and things would be easier for you to accomplish without the added pressure and responsibility of motherhood. I know women who had children at a young age and have accomplished what they desired, but the road was longer and more difficult. Personally, if i were your mother, I would suggest you terminate the pregnancy and begin taking birth control as well as discuss the many reasons for using a condom... But as a woman I realize that at 14 you are pretty much done being a child and should have some control of what happens to you and what you want. So, follow your instincts, dear. My grandmother used to say if it's not a definite YES-- it's a NO. Oh yeah, and should you decide to terminate. Rest assured it is your decision. Not a moral one. There is no reason to feel ashamed or wrong. You have plenty of time to become a mom. Should you decide to keep it-- You are signing up for a lifetime. Do you your best and always hold the child's welfare above all else. Do this with love, understanding and above all PATIENCE and you will do fine.

Answer 4

Well im also around the age of 14 and if i found out i was pregnant i would tell my mom. as hard as it seems you will feel much better. a few things i would NOT do is abortion. im totally against that. i would not put it up for adoption because then i would spend the rest of my life in regret of what i did. i would keep the baby and take responsibility for my actions. know what you did probably wasnt the best thing to do at this point in your life....but also see it as a time for growing and fun experiences! i know a few people that have gone through this, and its not that bad. sure there are hard times but there are fun ones too! it will be ok.

Answer 5

Did you go to planned parrenthood? If not they can help you with your options and give you direction on what and how to tell your parents. The important thing is if you choose to have the baby, do whatever you can to stay in school, and attend a training program. It will be very hard at first, but by doing everything right from today will make your life much easier in the future.

I went through the same thing and made some really bad choices. Feel free to e-mail me w/ an questions, my address is located on my profile.

Answer 6

I know we all have our own choices. Here is just one point-of-view. My wife and I don't have a choice on whether we can get pregnant or not. We can't. The only way is through adoption. We adopted a beautiful girl and are SOOO grateful to have her and for the birth mom for choosing to not have an abortion, and to place her with a couple that wants to have a baby.

Answer 7

I can tell u this no one can make a decision for you. You have to make this decision for your self! Tell your parents and maybe they can step in and take a big step and help provide for your baby. The Father?? Is he around. My sister is 14 and had a baby boy. he's 3 months old now. She goes to school and is doing great in school! My mom was fortunate enough to take a step in the babies life and make a difference. My sister loves her baby and shes a GOOD mother! Its not going to be easy!!! Trust me. Just keep your head up and make a good decision for u and your future and for your child's sake as well.

Answer 8

Do tell your mother and of course ...don't expect her to be happy about this.
You will be growing up really fast and will never get to be a teenager or finish school.
Consider the future of your child...above all else, and don't expect this to be easy decision in any way. Consider making a family by giving the child up for adoption,

Answer 9

Wow... I have been there too! There is lots to consider with the question but I would be happy to talk with you more about it if you need some one to talk with, You are welcome to IM me! Further more... I see a lot of blame and people telling her she made a mistake and she should learn from this and telling her not to kill her baby and have an abortion! Im not saying this is the case but it is wrong to accuse this girl of making a mistake, what if she was raped?

Answer 10

First of all, you have to take on the responsibility of making that decision. If you abort it, you have to live with that, if you keep it, big responsibility of trying to give it the love it needs. or there is always the option of adoption, plenty of people that can love it, but hard to give it up.