We been together for a year and a half and he doesn't bring up the subject. I don't want this situation anymore but at the same time I feel if I'll start talking about the marriage, it will take away from the situation. In other words, I feel I will resent him for bringing up marriage myself and not him.
2006-11-02 06:25:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this is something that is on your mind, then by all means, do talk about it. You will only keep dwelling on the feelings and get resentful yourself if you don't. Talk to him and you will rest better at night. Good Luck.
2006-11-02 06:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a year and a half, you really should have a discussion about your future, the relationship and his views on marriage. It's not about making him mad, it's about understanding what you both want for the future, and making sure you're compatible-- which will add to, not take away, from the situation. If you're hoping for some romantic, fluffy little discussion about marriage and love and flowery proposals, you need to get real. Marriage is a lifetime commitment that most people fail at. If you're too afraid to talk about it, you're already off to a bad start.
2006-11-02 14:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well really a year and a half is not really a Long time to have been dating before proposing marriage. I had known and dated my husband for 4 years before he asked, and it really was a surprise. I was happy being with him and I knew he was with only me, we lived together, and "marriage" has become more of a legal contract than a commitment between two people and God. If you feel you need to bring it up, do it casually, and not when he is vulneralble or stressed out. It makes for a comfy couch warming conversation, and will most likey take a while to discuss.
2006-11-02 14:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by Amber L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think it makes a difference at all. My boyfriend and I have already talked about it also and between us the feeling is mutual. It is a really big committment so you have to be sure that this person is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with. But definitely ask because you will never know an answer if you don't say anything. He may be the one that is too afraid to say anything about it because he thinks that you will freak out on him. Trust what you feel is the right thing to do.
2006-11-02 14:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by cheergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that communication is key, tell him how you feel. If he is not responsive to your needs better you know now than 5 years and a cpl of kids later.
There is a time in which a person wants a family, home, etc. and there is nothing wrong with that, if you are ready now and he is not then you need to move on cause you are wasting time.
2006-11-02 14:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i asked my fiancee to marry me like 20 times a day and he always told me he wanted to do it, i started off by just joking around about it and then gradually talked about it more seriously, finally after 6 months he asked me to marry him, and it was adorable, he might just want time to save up for a ring, thats why my fiancee took so long, we lived together and i cashed his checks, so he had to be sneaky about the saving!!
good luck sweetie
2006-11-02 14:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by AllCrassNoClass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use this ploy.............when 2 years are up, tell him you are breaking up with him. If he asked why, tell him it's your policy that if your bf doesn't propose by 2 yrs, you will break up with them. See what he has to say.
2006-11-03 08:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ask him. Drop hints. See what happens
2006-11-02 14:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is nothing wrong with that,,, you should do it maybe he is scared... but maybe he is getting comfortable with the situation,,,you never know,,, ask you never know,,,
2006-11-02 14:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not a must to marry a boyfriend
2006-11-02 14:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by wghany2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋