Do you miind or would you mind your husband going to the bar alone?

Question

And do you think he would feel the same if it was the other way around, the wife going to the bar alone?

He did invite me, but it was the kind of invite where he didnt really want me to go, and i didnt wanna go cause i was recording but i dunno if i like it or not him going alone. I cant decide!!

He did invite me, but it was the kind of invite where he didnt really want me to go, and i didnt wanna go cause i was recording but i dunno if i like it or not him going alone. I cant decide!!

Answer 1

It would depend upon the circumstances. Is it just a once in a while thing with the fellas? Or are other guys bringing their wives and or girlfriends? Otherwise the only reason to go to a bar alone is to be available for pick up.
Either way, there isn't any reason why you should stay at home. Take advantage of the free time and go out yourself with some friends to a show or out for cocktails or coffee or whatever.

Answer 2

I was married... young. I got married 19. He was and is the love of my life. It ended in divorce 4 yrs later. His family were alcoholics. I just thought it was fun times.. I didnt think for the first while he had a problem too.

He began going to bars all the time with his friends, dad and brother. I was left home alone all teh time. It became a big problem and thus we divorced.

Bars are not a good place for anyone let alone a married man OR woman. Why would a spouse not want to be home with their partner. I dont understand.

I am now remarried to a man of integrity who does not drink, we spend our time together.

I did mind about my first husband and the pain it caused me I still feel today.

Answer 3

I do not mind if my man goes anywhere alone. I'm not insecure about him cheating or flirting. Looking yes! I've been schooling every boyfriend and husband I ever had since I was old enough to date. I let all of my past boyfriends and husband know this statement in all capital letter with an explanation point. 'IF YOU CHEAT ON ME, I WILL CHEAT ON YOU!" Now I always say that I know 2 wrongs don't make a right. But I told them I will do it, and then I'll come home and get on my knees bedside, pray to God for forgiveness and explain to God why I did it. Cry it out and let it go. See men think that they're the only ones that can constantly be doing cheating. And then they ask "how would you know?" If you know your man, you will know! I personally will smell it! Not the scent but the attitude. As my grandmother use to tell me, I know a man's black a*s from A - Z! She taught me well! Don't be no fool and if your man acts like he wants to get stupid (violent) if you can't whoop his a*s, warn his a*s that you will boil water once he's sleep and beat his a*s with a hot pot. That way they sleep with one eye open. I had my husband waking up many times in the morning to go to work from not getting a good night sleep. I don't play!

Answer 4

I don't even know, neither my husband nor I like to go to bars, so I can't even imagine this situation arising. He goes some places I have no interest in going to (trade shows or movies, for example), and I sometimes go places alone (mostly to see friends). But we spend plenty of time together, so it's never a problem if one of us wants to stay home while the other wants to do something with friends.

Answer 5

If you trust your husband I don't see why there would be a problem. My husband travels a lot so he goes out alone while out of town. I trust him enough that I don't worry about him going out and having a drink or two. He feels the same way about me. Having an open and honest relationship is the key. We've been married for 22 years with no major problems.

Answer 6

My first marriage I thought it no big deal if he go without me. That was my first mistake. I also went out without him. That marriage didn't last long becuz for some reason he just had a problem with forgetting he was married!! Both too young to get married!

Then my second marriage we just didn't go anywhere! He didn't like my friends, who are absolutely wonderful people, he just thought they were odd. Like he's the poster child for normalcy!! So if I went anywhere, usually friends homes when we (my kids, husband, and I) were invited and my husband never went with. That marriage ended also.

Now the third. He occasionally does go out without me. There was a period when he was going out way too much and let him know that I didn't like it. But between marriages I've become agoraphobic and have anxiety attacks so I go NO where usually. I don't think it's fair to him to stay at our home all the time like I do, so I let him go. He doesn't push the issue about going all the time. But I do know that he needs to get out every once in a while and see friends, and socialize.

Whether he'd mind if I went out alone, he says he wouldn't mind. That's becuz we have trust. Never had that the other two times. And believe me, he's given me reasons not to trust him! I've had to work on getting it back with him and he's had to work to get it from me. Still coming slowly, but if a relationship doesn't have it, then there's nothing for the two of you to work with. You can't just have trustworthiness in your mate and he you. Both of you must get trust.

Answer 7

it depends on your trust level. I trust my man enough that he could go the a strip club, get many lap dances and I know he would keep it in his pants and his hands to himself. A bar is a bar, I go there with girlfriends after work every so often, and it doesn't mean that I am not getting what I need at home, its peace and quit away from my kids and my man and time for me to have fun with my friends. He has the right to do the same.

Answer 8

A bar alone? To watch a game? Who wants to go to the bar alone? I would be checking in on him, sorry - but that is just odd. Maybe if he was going out with the boys...but alone? How often is this happening? Follow your gut. Don't bother with the games, of you going alone to show him how it feels, just get the truth out of the situation.

Answer 9

In the first place I would not have married a man who wants to go to bars alone or otherwise.

Answer 10

My guy and I go together and sometimes alone to the bar. It all boils down to 1) can you trust him while there? and 2) has he ever given you reason not to trust him?

I know I can trust my man, that's why it doesn't bother me. Overall though, it really isn't a place for someone in a relationship to be.