I have heard that laying with a man or a woman without being bounded by marriage is a sin. So I ask you what is Marriage?
DO we really know? Can we honestly think that to be married in the biblical days has anything to do with how the definition of marriage is perceived today? Every word changes definition through time, based on how man change their thinking.
I mean did they have blood tests, and a piece of paper to solidify their union? Was there a ceremony perhaps. Or maybe it was as simple as saying this man is my husband and this woman is my wife. And in doing so they sent a message to the rest. So if that is so how can we say what is a sin when it pertains to marriage. I have seen many commit a sin(a sin upon themselves) by accepting the brand that mens eyes has placed upon them, and they live in a marriage without love. That would seem a sin to me.
Abram(Abraham) bedded his wifes handmaid, and bore a child. He was rewarded not condemned. Can you explain?
2006-11-02 05:59:37 · 10 answers · asked by fryedaddy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
men have always been pricks?
2006-11-02 06:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The child was later exiled as was the handmaiden due to the animosity between the two children and to firmly establish the child with the legitimate claim to his father's holdings. This fight over land is the root of the land fight in the middle east today.
Marriage today, is a vow between two people for the rest of their lives. It is a guarantee of a help mate and partner when things are good or bad. Marriage always seeks the best interests of the other person. Marriage is a protection to assure the legitimacy of the children and that all you work for in your life time is kept within that family arrangement. Marriage is a blessing.
2006-11-02 06:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage in biblical times was more like a contract (Ketubah in hebrew). This contract specified everything that was expected of each partner. THere could be more than two ppl involved in a marriage, polygamy was fairly commun, and yes accepted and blessed by G-d (I can give you bible reference of this). As far as perception goes its a very individual thing, just like every belief is.
THere was no blood test but a document was necesary amongst other things. The ring and other objects became part of the life of the married couple. THere was a ceremony and other things signified that a person was married, ie. women covered their hair if they were married.
THe reason it was permissible for Abraham to lay with Hagar was because Sarai (later Sarah), Abraham's wife gave her to him to do so. SHe was her slave and as such could be used however she saw fit, no different than a radio or towel.
FYI Hagar was casted out with the child because she had lost respect for Sarai since she was the mother of the first born male, Ishmael, but because Ishmael was the son of Abraham G-d still took care of them.
If you want to know more please feel free to im me.
Hope this helps
P.S. Abraham was never "condemed" he actually became very close with G-d, if you read the bible you will see that Abraham would even have arguments with G-d, like good friends do, not in a disrespectfull manner but Abraham disagreed with G-d and would tell Him.
2006-11-02 06:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by ttepinzon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't have anything to do with the marriages of today because we are in another time. People really don't know better. And Abram(Abraham) was condemned. He wasn't condemned to hell, because of the bedding with his wife's handmaid, but his generations, the people of today, are condemned. Look at the war. They all started because Abraham's first born was not the child God promised child. So because Abraham had little faith in Sarah having a baby at 90, he bedded with her handmaids which was Sarah's idea. So Abraham was condemned just not in his time but in ours.
2006-11-02 06:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Leah S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you asking for clarification or to hinder the Christian beliefs? Perhaps you are trying to justify your own sin. And Abraham was not rewarded from that sin. He went through trails after conceiving with the maid (I think her name was Rachel) and later had a son with his wife. That reward was not a result of his infidelity was was a reward of the other good things he had done. I think he proved to be a strong man of god despite his sins and failures, and he proved that with the Ram.
2006-11-02 06:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't look at things from a religious viewpoint. You might like to try the same.
Oh, and marriage is a committment to spend your lives with each other. If one person decides to step outside the marriage, then the marriage is over.
As for having sex outside the marriage, I think it's as important to know you're sexually compatible as it is to know you're emotionally compatible before you get married.
Don't live everything in your life by something a 2000 year old book (written by mankind during a time when we still believed in dragons) tells you to do. You don't know what those people that wrote it actually meant by what they said, or the life they lived. Unless you're immortal and have actually met any of them face to face.
2006-11-02 06:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is a time tested institution that protects women and their children.
2006-11-03 00:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for any excuse in the world to cheat.
2006-11-02 06:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, i cannot explain.
i just had to let you know that this was the best question i've come across all day. very refreshing. thank you.
2006-11-02 06:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a great question, I don't know the answer.
2006-11-02 06:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋