Needing Some Advice on Feeling Taken For Granted and Unappreciated by Significant Other? (Revised)?

Question

I have a situation that I'm hoping I can get some good advice on.
My boyfriend and I live together. He has a 4 year old son who lives with us every other week. My b/f started a new job a couple months ago and upon him starting this job, it was assumed on his part that I would take care of his son while he was at work (I am a stay at home mom). So I've been taking care of his son every other week, while he works. I am beginning to feel very resentful of having to watch his kid, not because of the kid, but because I feel very taken for granted and unappreciated by my boyfriend for it. I never hear a "thank you for taking good care of my son for me while I work." ...Or "It means a lot to me that you're doing this for me", etc. I don't even thinks he takes into consideration that by me watching his son, I'm saving him tons of $$$ in childcare expenses. I've tried to talk to him about it but he says his appreciation should go without saying. What should I do?
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I failed to claify this in my original post which is why I've revised the question with more details. Although I am a stay at home mom, I am the one financially supporting the family with the income I have coming in. I am the one who pays all the bills, not my boyfriend. My boyfriend HAS to work to pay child support for his other two daughters from a previous marriage.

Answer 1

Time for Dad to put his 2 cents in on this one. I for benefits and salary not as high as my wifes am the one who stays home with the children. Also, as a man I don't see any problem with your wanting a thank you or a night out (put what you want ___ here) To feel appreciated for anything you do for someone is human nature and from your question and everything you are doing a verbal compliment or action is due! It just helps make you feel better and shows love. I know sometimes I would like to hear my wife say thank you, instead of the complaining about her day and then off to see the kids. So from me to you, Congrats and a good day to ya'

Answer 2

It sounds like you are his third serious relationship??? I would take a look at this picture--seriously. What kind of guy was he when you met him? If he hasn't changed, then look at yourself and why it is that you have him in your life. People are always settling when they could do so much better. If you are determined to stay with this guy, then you have to sit down and talk to him and tell him how much you care about him and how you love to help him, but that it is important that he lets you know that he appreciates all that you do do--for him and his kid. If he says it should be known without being said, well, then, I would wonder, personally, if this is a person that I would want to spend my life with......think about it...really.

Answer 3

Does he spend time with you after he comes home from work or just brushes you off? If he spends time with you and takes you somewhere or anything I'm sure that's what his appreciation is, to him. Guys aren't as emotional as us, why I don't know. We need to hear certain things, I understand that completly. If he doesn't spend time with you or do things for you/with you sounds like maybe he's just using you to babysit while he looks like a "good" dad. Just my 2 cents :D

Answer 4

Your college might have a therapist for issues like this, or they should besides. maximum do now. you do no longer ought to tell any friends or every person else which you're going, in basic terms circulate on my own quietly for the duration of a ruin-time and chat. they're paid to handle circumstances in basic terms like this and hopefully would be waiting to help.