She called the cops and made me leave so I moved out with divorce in mind after a month apart (see her and kids every day) She wants my body so I went over one night and had a good time
Now what should I do? Take her back? Or will all the problems resurface again. We fight all the time.
2006-11-02 05:48:08 · 24 answers · asked by Bad Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why call the cops?
No hitting!! just up in her face in a threating manner. The verbal abuse is BAD
2006-11-02 08:00:02 · update #1
On both sides
2006-11-02 08:00:43 · update #2
well 9 times out of 10 it will be good for a while but then it will go back the way it was but if you both work at it for the kids sake it could work out if you both really want to get back together.Need to date each other again not moving in together just dating to see if it might work out small moves and time will tell.
2006-11-02 06:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Randall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... why did she call the cops on you? Was it justified ... was it your fault? Or is she crazy? Does she do things like this all the time? How do you feel about her? If you love her ... then you both need to go to counseling. You need to work out the problem. If she is just crazy, then you need to ask yourself is being in this realtionship really worth all the heartache. Then you have to wonder if your kids are ok with her? This could be a bigger issue than you thought.
Just because the two of you have a night of steamy sex is nothing to worry over. Maybe you both missed each other and wanted physical company. You both clearly still want each other? Not sure what to tell you?
Why is your sign-on name Bad Boy? Does that have something to do with why she called the cops?
I'm worried about your kids at this point.
2006-11-02 13:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rachelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you are not sharing the full story... Why did she call the cops on you for?
You should do some soul searching. Married life isn't easy. Now a days when there are issues in the relationship the easy way out is getting divorced. You should ask yourself what it is that you want and how you feel with the issue you are facing.
If there is still affection and love between each other then you should seek marriage counseling.
2006-11-02 14:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it could turn out to be a vicious circle. Unless bot of you are committed to makign it work and make the appropriate changes things will always be the same. Have that discussion and see if you can both come to a compromise. Otherwise it would be best for you, your wife and the kids to separate if that is what it takes to make everyone happier. Think of the kids. I'm sure they don't want to hear you guys argue all the time. It;s not healthy for them for when they grow up.
2006-11-02 13:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many years ago, I was involved with a man who had some problems with alcohol. I was newly separated and drinking a lot myself. The sexual attraction between us was very strong. He would do or say something that would make me not want to see him again. But sure enough, I would end up back in his bed. After too many months of back and forth, I finally had enough and walked away for good. I was tempted a few times after that to go back to his bed, but I did not. Sometimes, it is just not worth it to stay with someone. Never again have I been so weak.
2006-11-02 14:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys still think you have some love for each other, then maybe you guys can talk it over, go and get some family counseling or something like that. Many times counseling does work. Think about your kids, they are the ones who suffer the most, both of you should try to change. Good luck with that!
2006-11-02 13:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by lady butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys fight a lot then you will most likely still fight if you get back together,When people separate they tend to sleep together still,that's because you know one another,its easier to get it from some one you are use to.Don't get sex and love mixed up.Just don't lead her on by any mends,It will be hard but it sounds like it would be best for all of you to not be together.Fighting hurts everyone.
2006-11-02 15:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by mytifine_01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say go your separate ways.What happens the next time she calls the cops jail.No piece of tail is worth that and if you fight all the time
2006-11-02 14:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by stevens_monroe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need individual counseling - and also marriage counseling as a couple - if you can't afford it many services provide that for free these days.
Sounds to me like it's counseling - or file for divorce.
The sleeping together is just comfort and what you are used to...that is not going to hold your marriage together on it's own.
Counseling is your only option outside of divorce..and you need it individual and together.
2006-11-02 13:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problems will come back. They never went away, or you wouldnt be asking!! I know that booty calls are the best but you gotta stop that too. It just makes the whole thing hard on the kids and you too.
2006-11-02 13:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by clawbeaja 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋