Do you think its wrong if???

Question

I am 19 years old,i have a two year old son, I have two jobs, going to school, have my own place to live BUT... i want another baby????
even though im young i LOVE being a mommy and ima damn good one at that. Im not married or with my babys father but Hes always around and helps take care of his son...And he said he'd consider having another baby.... Is this wrong?

And to lil "CAPTAIN CUPCAKE"....My son is VERY well taken care of, and his father doesnt "SHOW UP WHEN HE FEELS LIKE IT" He sees his dad every day. I didnt rob my son of ANYTHING and he doesnt have a "POOR FAMILY LIFE." I know for a fact that my son is alot happier than some of these children that DO have married parents. And WHAT IF i told u i ALREADY go to a "bible believing church" as you would call it...i think what you need to do is stop acting like your dumb *ss knows everything and stop giving christians or whatever the hell you are a BAD NAME by acting and presenting yourself the way you do....like a b*tch...your silly...lol

Answer 1

If you are working two jobs and going to school how much time do you spend with your son? I would wait until you can spend more time with your son and only working one job before I had another child.

Answer 2

Yes, you've made a big mistake.

The original man/woman relationship was for them to be married and raising the children together. Your kids need BOTH parents 24/7 and not just whenever the father feels like showing up for the thrill of making another baby. Child developmental experts have shown that the first 5 years of any kid's life are where the most amount of learning about life is done. You already have robbed the one kid of a couple years of knowing what a REAL family relationship is and now you want to do it to another kid??

When the teenage years hit, you are going to wonder what happened when you are blindsided by a major crisis caused by the poor family life of the present 2 year old and the next one you want to have. The number one reason for kids growing up wrong, going to jail, getting on drugs, etc., is from there NOT being a father having an impact 24/7. Find out what the experts say if you think I'm not telling you the truth.

Marry your kid's father if you really want to do what is right for your kid(s). If he won't marry you, find a guy who will be the father your kid needs. I suggest you go to a Bible believing church where you can find someone who is more interested in having real family life than sex or having a baby.

Answer 3

It is not wrong to want to have a baby but you have to look at your current situation. Are you financially capable of taking care of two kids? Will you be able to cope with a newborn when you are trying to get studying done? I'm sure with two jobs, school and a child to raise, your life is pretty hectic right now. I suggest you finish school and wait about a year or two and see if your situation has gotten any better.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I absolutely love being a mother, I have 3 boys, and am fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with them. I really want one more. I am kinda hoping for a girl. But present circumstances have kept me from pursuing it. I am only 24, (fixing to be 25), I have been married for 8 years. But our house is just too small. Until my husband can add on to our house, or we move. I am just biding my time. Being a mom can be a taxing job. With everything else going on. it might be too much. What if you had to quit one of your jobs, due to pregnancy, or if you lost one of them. Would you still be able to make ends meet. Whatever you decide, i wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

You're a sweetheart, girl. It's very nice of you to have such a tender heart, otherwise I've seen mean people emphasizing on abortion and ending another human's life. But as others said, God willing, you have a long life ahead of you. So don't worry about having a baby right now. It's better to ease your load first, settle yourself (preferably with a loving hubby) and then consider having another child. I'll remember you in my prayers.

Answer 6

It's not wrong that you want it, but do you think it would be best to bring a child into the world now, or to wait until you finished with school first. That way you'd have more time and things could only be better. It's not wrong to want something, the consequences lie in the deed.

Answer 7

if you love being a mom, be a mom to the one you got. enjoy your child because if you have a nother one so soon you wont be able to enjoy both children. You are also going to be worn out. I think you should wait till you have some time opening up before you have another kid. there are too many moms who have their kids all at once and cant enjoy a single one of them.

Answer 8

ever think about getting married or do you like the way you are living. I think you are nuts to have another baby unless the two of you are married. When your kids grow up are you going to let them sleep around with anybody they want ?

Answer 9

It isn't wrong to have feelings, but it's wrong to bring another human being into the world and farm them out to someone else to take care of while you work 2 jobs. And when would you have time to raise another child??

Why don't you just put your time and energy into the one child that you do have?

Answer 10

if i were you, i would wait till i was more settled in life. you can always have kids, you're still young, but you need to be able to support them well and at the same time, spend quality time with them. Having children is no big deal, bringing them up well is.