Effects of divorce on the kids?

Question

How would it affect the kids if parents divorce? Easier when they are younger or older.My boy is 22months..

Answer 1

A divorce affects a child much less than growing up in a troubled household. Don't ever stay together for the sake of the child! I left my first husband when my daughter was 18 months old. He was verbally and emotionally abusive, in addition to being unfaithful. It was having it's toll not only on me, but on my little girl as well.

She is 11 years old now and an awesome kid. I remarried when she was 5 and now she gets to see what a marriage is supposed to be.

Good luck, and God bless you!

Answer 2

How kids deal with divorce at any age has a lot to due with how the parents deal with divorce. If the parents choose to argue and bicker in front of the kids -- divorce situation or not -- the children will pick up on the tension and their energy level will feed off of that tension. It's best to be as adult as possible around the kids, and save the fights for when the kids aren't around.

Your son is quite young, and you probably won't need to do or say anything special right now. Just go on with your life and your divorce. In the future if he asks why you don't live with his dad, just say something simple like: "Your dad and I didn't love each other enough to live together, honey."

Answer 3

It's much easier when they are younger. I got divorce when my kids were 14 and 12 and they hated me for years. They blamed me for leaving their dad but they didn't know all the reasons. I had made a decision never to speak bad about their father but just this year (3 years later), they understood why I left. They went to visit their dad over the summer and saw his "girlfriend" and they suddenly remembered her from when we were still together. He had taken the kids out one day and they met up with (back then) his lover and introduced her to the boys as a co-worker. They both thought the boys would never recognize her. Idiots!

All that to say that it's definitely much easier when they're younger.

Answer 4

It is never easy - regardless of the age. My girls were 5 and 3 when thier father and I got divorced 3 years ago....and it is still hard on them to this day. Although - it has been much more difficult for my oldest. I think she was closer to her father and she also remembers alot of the fighting and the bad things that happened - because she was older.
Just love your little boy and do your best to try to comfort him and help him understand. It helps if both parents can maintain a civil relationship with each other and both parents need to continue to be loving to the child and involved in his life.
Divorce is SO HARD!!!
Good luck and God bless!

Answer 5

My parent's got divorce before I was 1 year old, but I had a very good step father, and he was around for 16 years. I think if I was older it would be harder for me to adopt to a step father.
On the other hand, my husband has four children ages 10, 16, 22, and 24 and it is difficult for me to deal with them and them to deal with me because we are all already set in our ways, and some of their actions are not acceptable.
So in conclusion, if the child is younger I think it is easier, but remember you are abounding your child and putting your child a risk to be molested/rape, failing in school, and even going on drugs, so please try to work it out because this will still take a toll on the child.
If there is any type of abuse then it is best to leave.

Answer 6

Divorce is often complicated on infants, i understand that divorce does ensue, do no longer combat or communicate approximately it in front of them. interior the long-term, the youngsters would be superb. I come from a relatives the place rather everyone were divorced a minimum of as quickly as,lol.(y i by no potential have been given married) yet as long as you hold an exceedingly close courting with them and cause them to understand that's no longer their fault, they are going to be in basic terms superb. Divorce does not would desire to be a existence or dying subject, even nonetheless it does suck.

Answer 7

I don't think it matters how old the child is it will always effect them in a negative way. When my parents divorced I was 7, my brother was 5,and my sister was 3. It has effected us all in different ways. But we have all suffered from depression for years. We all have issues with our current relationships. No matter what divorce f***s kids up. Kids will always feel they are somewhat to blame no matter how much you tell them it is not their fault.

Answer 8

My parents not living together when I was very young and divorce eventually... My mummy raise my elder bro, elder sister and me. What I can say it's all depends on the person itself. However, ofcos there are somethings a divorce parents' kid will somehow suffered from. Like being very insecure, not confidence about themselves, love / attention needy and also forever envy friends with good parents. Good things is that people like that will also be very independent, very mature than kids who are of his/her same age. Better EQ and also more sensitive..

Answer 9

For obvious reasons, children see divorce as something very traumatic. They are often concerned with their own security, not always with their parent's happiness- (so the idea of "my kids want me to be happy" is wrong.)

Their reactions are different: Some will be extremely sad and show signs of depression and even sleeplessness. Anxiety levels peak as they feel they are going to be abandoned or rejected by one or even both parents. Some divorce situations may make the child feel lonely. Some children may become psychologically scarred from the experience.

Children fear that if they have lost one parent, they may lose the other. They may blame themselves, feel unlovable, or not feel safe. They worry about who will take care of them and even who will pick them up from child care or from school.
Other effects:
Loss of appetite.
Upset stomach - may spit up more.
More fretful or anxious. More crying, clinging.
Problems sleeping.
Regression to infant behaviors (back to diapers, thumbsucking).
May feel anger, may not understand why he or she feels that way.
May worry when parent is out of sight.
May withdraw, bite, or be irritable

Divorce is NEVER EASY on children.

Answer 10

younger, if the parents can get along for the sake of a child when they divorce then it is easier on the child. it's better for a child to have 2 loving divorced parents than married parents who are always arguing.