2006-11-02 05:18:49 · 8 answers · asked by TERMITE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a whole lot and they are normally to unable to tell mom and dad how it hurts them . My friend got her kids in a class called divorce care for kids and it helped them to cope and get out all the bad and sad feelings. they still are sad but not as bad. divorce hurts all involved
2006-11-02 05:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every situation is different. I grew up in a very loving home with two parents who were very close. They began growing apart when the oldest of us went away to college and divorced when my youngest sister was in her mid teens. It effected us all deeply and were very depressed, hurt, and confused by it.
But like I said, every situation is different. A friend of mine left her very controlling and neglectful husband when her children were in their early teens, and they are happier now that he is out of the house. They are actually closer to both parents now that they don't have to live with the two of them fighting.
Edit...notfree makes a really good point! Parents need to handle a divorce the right way for their kids. Meaning, never put them in the middle, make sure they know they are loved, and make sure they never blame themselves. Kids need to understand why the parents are divorcing, without all the gory details. It would have helped my sisters and I coupe if my parents hadn't put us in the middle. Consider getting your kids counseling too, or going as a family. It also helps the kids if they think their parents will still get along after and will be good co-parents even if they aren't living together.
2006-11-02 05:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but to what degree all depends on how the parents deal with the kids during and afterwards. If they can make the children understand that they in no way have anything to do with it and remain friendly in the eyes of the kids, it will not hurt them as much. No kids want to see their parents divorced.
2006-11-02 05:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it does. But sometime it hurts the kids to stay. But in the long run in some cases divorce is for the best.
2006-11-02 05:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but sometimes it's the best option.
What's worse for the kids though is not usually the divorce itself but how the parents behave after the divorce.
Do the kids end up living with an insane step-father or step-mother after the ordeal?
2006-11-02 05:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's no longer doing his babies any sturdy by capacity of staying in an unloving, distrustful marriage. he's "coaching" them a thank you to settle for relationships. thus, while they develop into adults they gained't know a thank you to have a efficient and loving dating. And particular, men and females persons the two stay in undesirable marriages for what they call the "sake of the babies." the babies ought to nicely known a thank you to make selections. If the marriage is irrepairable and the two rather do no longer love one yet another anymore. How is that helping his kinfolk thrive and advance as adults which will sometime want a loving realtionship? it may no longer. interior the process the determination to area approaches in a marriage there will be injury thoughts, extra pointedly relating to the babies. in spite of the indisputable fact that, in time and if the two mom and dad can stay civil and save the young babies nicely-being in potential - the babies will study a thank you to be solid and total. Divorce demands artwork too! your babies will continually be your babies, notwithstanding in case you and your mate do no longer or won't be able to make it artwork any further.
2016-10-21 03:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does, but sometimes it's for the best for both parties. First they are sad and then hurt and then angry and then they learn to blame either one of you. Be strong, but make them understand it is never their fault. Show lots of love.
2006-11-02 05:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by CLW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does hurt the kids but sometimes it hurts them worst if you stay together.
2006-11-02 05:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by juicy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋