This may sound ridiculous. We are friends, but it's weird with us. The beginning of our story months ago was very spontaneous. No dates, nothing, but meeting from time to time on campus...I was hinking it gonna turn to a typical love relationship, especially when he asked me out after a long time...but today I find this sickening because days are elapsing and he is saying nothing at all.. I see affection and care in his eyes, but I want something palpable...I am on shaky grounds with him, and I don't want to ask him because I am shy and because I don't want to put myself in that position, for I imagine he gonna shut up and look at me when I ask him what's all this about!
Please, tell me what I can do. I feel angry at this.
2006-11-02 05:13:55 · 11 answers · asked by rosyrose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, this is going to sound absolutely weird. I am very confused.
About 4 years ago , I was a school cleaner, married with an abusive husband. A new male teacher came to the school where I was working and we started a very close friendship. In 2004 I left my husband after many fights , I could not take anymore. This male teacher help me through me hard times and we became even closer. We started sleeping together which resulted in me falling pregnant (I lost a girl at 27 weeks of my pregnancy, she lived for 5 hours) Anyway, up until 2 weeks ago , we were still sleeping with each other. But all this time he says he loves me but just wants to be friends. Due to financial problems I have moved into his house. I have my own room and he says he no longer wants to sleep together. I love him very much, but like you I am confused.
Now I will get to the point, it is obvious that you like this man, just ask him what he wants out of you, meaning a friendship or a relationship. I do not want to see you get hurt sweetie.
2006-11-02 05:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am understanding this right. You were both just friends for sometime. Now, he has asked you to go steady with him and then he quits talking to you? Did you say *yes* or *no*? If you said no then you hurt his feelings and he just isn't sure how to take the rejection. It will take him time and you should write him a letter if you want to save your friendship and explain that to him in the letter. If you said yes, and he is doing this, then he may have been testing your *just* friendship and you failed in his eyes. That is very wrong for someone to do, but there are people who do put others through tests to see where they stand and what their *expectations* are. If this is the case, write him a letter asking him this, and then let him know (if you are of course) that you are perfectly happy with your *just friendship* and it doesn't matter if you and him are an item or not, as long as you can be friends. But only if you feel that way. If you have feelings for him, then write him and tell him that. Tell him he is as much to blame for your feelings for him as you are because of all the time that you both spent together and for all the *affection and care* you see in him that showed to you and for you, and if he isn't MAN enough to be in a REAL relationship with you, then you can and will find someone that does. I hope this has helped some. I am sorry that men can be so shallow and distant. Good luck to you. Blessed be
2006-11-02 13:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he thinks about the two of you. Dart around the question a bunch and hopefully he will take the hint. Nice guys usually aren't very bold. I have a lot of friends who complain that there aren't any good men around and I know quite a few guys who are really great who are just submissive and shy.
If I were a woman I'd go for the shy nice guy over the bold guy who beats me up and calls me whore, but I guess that's where I break off from many women in opinion.
2006-11-02 13:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think this guy is not for you. You are into him, but he's not into you. If he really cared, he'd show his love and affection to you, instead of being weird around you. You guys do not have good communication, and that's always going to be an obstacle for you to have a nice relationship. Move on with your life and find yourself a man that's into you and REALLY wants to be with you.
2006-11-02 13:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seeing affection in his eyes because you want to see it or because it really is there.Tell him about all the things that you like to do and see what happens from there. If nothing happens chances are he just doesn't want to go out with you anymore.
2006-11-02 13:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you expect him to say something when you don't want to do it yourself. You have no right to be mad because you are too chicken sh*t to say anything yourself. Have you thought that maybe he feels the same way you do. Maybe he doesn't want to put himself out there either. If you do get together that will be one funny relationship. Two people to scared to get their feelings hurt to say anything to one another. Good luck with that one!!
2006-11-02 13:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's worthwhile, ask him. What's the worst that can happen? You get turned down? That won't be the end of your life, will it?
2006-11-02 13:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either get the balls to ask him out or give it up and move on.
2006-11-02 13:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is eternal.A day it will certainly make you and your family surprised when it will change dimensions of many persons who are against LOVE..
2006-11-02 13:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by Reva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to know you will talk to him about it.
2006-11-02 13:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋