2006-11-02 05:10:10 · 16 answers · asked by Brina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there. It was a horrible feeling and the trust thing went completely out the window.
You might want to question him why he would do such a thing and if you had done something to cause this or was it all his doing. After he answers all your questions and you are satisfied, I would tell him how it really hurt you and that the complete trust you have had in him was now gone and it would take time for you to learn to trust him again. When the time comes and you can forgive him, tell him so and you must try and drop the subject and not bring it up again. Do not shadow him and watch his every move or constantly question him or accuse him endlessly.
Forgiving is easy it's the forgetting that can doom a marriage.
2006-11-02 05:25:18 · answer #1 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it is possible. But it is hard. Are you sure it was only a kiss? I know from experience, that when I was cheated on in the past, I wanted to know every little detail. How, when, WHY!? I went thru so many emotions. I felt pissed, sad, betrayed, insecure. He didnt understand why I wanted to know all the details, but honestly, THAT was what made me get over it. I chose to forgive him, and now, I know that if Cindy Crawford was lying naked on our bed, he wouldn't touch her. We are far more complex them men. If you love him, and he is really sorry, and you feel like you can put it past you, then go for it. Good Luck!
2006-11-02 05:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone always says ,"Forgive and forget". You can pretend to forgive and forget, but it will always stand in the room like a giant elephant. You can move one and pretend that all is well. Down the line it will still chase you down and you will still get seperated. Better not to lie to yourself and to your husband.
A lot of men cheat and some don't. You are lucky that you found out this time. Next time, if you forgive him, you might never even find out.!
Save yourself and your time.
2006-11-02 05:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by Masha Levenson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. What kind of a kiss was it? Passionate and deep or a loving kiss or a cheek peck?
I have dear friends who we kiss at greeting and farewells. We dont make out or steal kisses during the dinner party or BBQ. My girl doe sthe same thing with our close guy friends. I dont feel threatened or angry. If it turned into a make out session then we'd have issues. Re-evaluate your relationship with your husband, and discuss or if you find that it was really nothing then move on.
2006-11-02 06:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, first I'd look at the events surrounding the incident. Perhaps you may be jumping the gun and it was an innocent thing. Either way though, evaluate your relationship and ask yourself if this is worth a major blowup or what. Then handle it accordingly.
2006-11-02 05:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by plitsmay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is but why would you...that's cheating. however, what kind of kiss was it and is she a friend of yours too? if it was a friendly peck on the cheek, no biggiem but if they were like tonguing and being gross then, i'd say you guys need to talk to a professional if you want this to work out otherwise you;ll just hang it over his head and you'll resent him and then things could just go downhill from there. good luck
2006-11-02 05:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by AnneeMoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on circumstances. Kissing isn't a good thing but not as bad as the alternative. To give a better asnswer.. need more details
2006-11-02 05:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by shimmers76 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes forgive but dont forget and if i were u i would tell him that u kissed another man to see how he reacts its funny how man/women cheat on there partners but when there partners do it back they go nuts!!!
2006-11-02 05:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can forgive anyone for anything ONE time but only ONE time.
2006-11-02 05:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But you can learn to forget about it. If that does not work get a divorce. How dare him!
2006-11-02 05:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Adam B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋