i started at a new job about 2 mos ago. the woman who is suppose to be training me is a bully and very rude. she wont answer half of my questions correctly and leaves a lot of information out. because of her bulliness i had a few meetings with her that got me no where and finally went to the office manager, which also got me nowhere except more problems with the bully. she is now taking every bit of my work to the o.m. and they are scrutinizing it. yet when the bully makes major mistakes nothing seems to happen. they give her the chance to correct hers. she has literally made me feel like i am having a nervous breakdown. iam sick, have diar. ii feels like i dont even know how to do my work properly anymorebecause im going to make a mistake and get fired. iam not new in this field but when i make a suggestion about our process it is shot down like im a dummy. icant take it anymore but i need a job to support myself. please help. i have thought about taping our conversations.
2006-11-02 05:08:22 · 7 answers · asked by midge 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Quit whining and do your job the best you could.
2006-11-02 05:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have a union speak to your rep. If you don't then ask for a meeting with your manager and HR regarding what you feel is an unfair grievance. Check out the office's grievance and complaints procedure. If you have something specific that she is bullying you over (your age, your sexuality, your race etc) complain about this, otherwise just say it is generally that she is making you feel awkward. Ask to be moved to a different department or to a new team. While doing this also start looking for a new job as you really don't want to be somewhere that stresses you out. It took me six months after I was in a similar situation but I'm finally happy and better off physcially and mentally.
Good Luck and remember, she may be a bully but you are the better person :)
2006-11-02 13:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay at this job any longer than absolutely necessary, your self-esteem could take a hit. It is unreal how much a bad boss can take control of your life and mess with your head.
I liked the other answer about filing a grievance, because you don't want people like this to get away with treating more people the same way she is treating you.
Remember not to take it personally. If she is treating you badly, that is her choice and the problem is hers, not yours. You've only been there two months, so you haven't invested too much into it yet. If anyones cares to know why you quit so early on, you can just say: "It wasn't the right fit" which is true, right??
2006-11-02 13:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by principessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably working for a firm chock full of nepotism and or special interest groups. You haven't got a chance. Very quietly find your self another job, secure your pay anyway you can, maybe claiming a false illness if they holding back your pay one week or more. See if you can work at the new job while you are so calling in "Sic". And don't even say good bye.
2006-11-02 14:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by oldtimer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a coincidence. An article about office bullying was on Yahoo news this morning
Fight fire with fire. The tape is a good idea
2006-11-02 13:14:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an article about this very thing on Yahoo today. Maybe it will help...
2006-11-02 13:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by peachy78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new job. Otherwise, you will be working with this crackpot.
2006-11-02 13:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋