i do want the baby and would have alot of support raising him/her but always imagined the father there to help so im a very confused mum.
2006-11-02 04:56:01 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I say if you want the baby you should definitely have the baby. I had an abortion at 24 years old and I still think about it everday and regret it. You should really do what you feel is right. Many kids do fine without a dad especially if your going to have so much support. Good Luck!
2006-11-02 04:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Nervous 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You are very young sweetie, and you have your whole life ahead of you, my daughter had her baby at the same age, even thought she is a great little mum,she finds it very hard, and just lately seems to dissapear every chance she gets, only for a hour or two, to see her friends around the corner, but i try and tell her she can't do this all the time.........its has been very hard for her, as the dad, had a very bad accident when the baby was 4 months old.....and then they started having problems, so she is home with me. I know that any women can raise a baby on their own io did with 7..........but its always good for the child to have a father, my kids dad was just a part-time one, not good. I really don't belive in abortion, but sometimes, you really need to weigh up the pros and cons,,,,, i am sure what ever you decide will be the best. good luck and god bless.
2006-11-02 05:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a child at 18 and thank goodness the father and I got married. However, I didn't get pregnant to keep the father around. I think that you have to decide if you want to keep the baby because you want a baby. There are so many loving parents that would give your child a wonderful loving stable life. Do what is best for your child, that is a true parent. Your child deserves to have a life, so great decision on having the baby!
2006-11-03 05:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by proud momma 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want the baby and will have support raising her/him then I would go ahead. Being pregnant is so rewarding.
The father may come round - you can always arrange for him to have visitation rights and hopefully he wil contribute financially to the child's upbriging.
The trouble with asking a question like this on here is you will get a lot of bigots saying things like "have it adopted" because they believe only married couples can raise kids. Thats crap.
And as for adoption, I'm 34 weeks pregannt and I dunno how ANYONE could carry a baby to term, go through the labour and then hand it over to strangers never to see it again like you're giving away an unwanted gift. Yeah its very "selfless" and nice for the childless couple but how many of us are really that selfless?
I'd make your own mind up and ignore what people on Yahoo answers say! Discuss it with your family.
2006-11-02 08:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its our own choice don't let anyone make you choose between anything and your baby,
The same happened to me same age same thing just think about what you want do you want the baby or not?
If you choose to have the baby then nothing else will matter, managed ok with my boy i coped seeming as your in early pregnancy you can think about it,
Also think about applying for housing and benefits i no its not the best option for anyone but it will help.
If your family are not that happy about you having a baby trust me it will all change when the baby is born and they see it,
As for the dad he will either stay off the scene completely or he will try and come and see his baby once you have done all the hard work, but he might just be abit confused about it all he might want to get back with you soon having a baby can seem scary but it will all be worth it in the long run if you want it
Good Luck
2006-11-02 12:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by bubbatiggs06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right for yourself. It sounds like you have an excellent supprt network, many people don't. As for the father give him time, im sure that this is all he will need then you can discuss your chlds future together. Dont do anything in a haste as you wlll end up regretting it for the rest of your life. I split from my baby's father when i was 17 and pregnant, my baby is now 11 and the most happiest little girl, and her dad didn't stick arund but she has a wonderful stepdad who loves her as his own
2006-11-02 07:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should go ahead and have the baby. You having lots of support will also help out. I know the ideal picture is to have the father there, but tons of women do it everyday. If however you feel you cant do it then give the baby up for adoption. Dont have an abortion. Make sure you get a DNA test done so that you can get child support though because babies arent cheap. Hope that everything works out for you!
2006-11-02 04:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Go with your heart, you will have to live with your decision for the rest of your life. Bringing up a child is not easy, but if your heart is in it, it is the most rewarding job in the world. I had my son when I was 22 (although I was and still am married), but sometimes I wish I had had him when I was younger than that, because he has brought so much into my life. I look at my childless friends and feel like THEY are the ones missing out. I think it depends a lot on the type of person you are, what lifestyle you want to live. I am quite happy sitting in front of the telly on a Saturday night with my little boy tucked up in bed, and don't mind that any spare money we have goes on things he needs rather that clothes or nights out for me. You have to make a lot of sacrifices to have a child, and for a very long time. But if you are ready to do that then they don't seem like sacrifices, just a change of priorities in your life. Think very carefully, either way the decision you make will change your life for ever.
2006-11-02 06:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by mum2jdh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie just because the daddy isn't going to be there for all the firsts is no reason to take it out on an innocent child. If you feel capable and want to be a mother then go for it.
As you said there is lots of help readily available for you and even though there is hardship in being a single mom at such a young age lots of girls do it and are glad that they did. Just remember this is not a toy and you can't turn it off at night lol.
Congrats and take care.
2006-11-05 19:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a totally personal decision. And it's a really hard one too. Talk to those close to you, starting with your mum and then discuss it with a Doctor.
It seems that modern women can do many things without a man around so personally I don't see why you can't bring the child up on your own. It's not going to be easy (even with a partner) but in this day and age, it's increasingly common, so you are not alone.
Wish you all the best
2006-11-02 05:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by bw_r005t3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋