2006-11-02 04:43:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes love. It took a couple of days to sink in that I had my baby son sleeping next to me in hospital. You read all these magazines and hear so many stories from friends that you often doubt whether you'll be good enough, but it all comes to you naturally.
2006-11-02 04:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone does. We had been trying for a baby, and I can still remember that sinking feeling when the second blue line came up, and thinking "my god, what have we done?!? Thats a person I'm gonna be responsible for!!!"
However, I found this doesn't subside completely as you get used to the idea - not until I came home, with baby in arms, realised how much I wanted to mother my child, and saw how much everything else paled into insignificance.
Remember your hormones are all over the place at the moment, which is definitely not helping. Talk to your other half about it, he probably feels daunted as well.
Good luck with the pregnancy!
2006-11-03 02:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is OK honey. Having a baby is a life changing experience and a beautiful experience as well. It is fear of the unknown and unfortunately parenting does not come with a manual. It is a learning curve and everyday you will learn something else and new. There are also many apprehensions that you will have from the day you find out that your pregnant, through to the birth itself and through to the early years. There will be times when your scared, worried, overwhelmed, excited and nervous, but your natural maternal instincts will kick in and you will be just fine.
2006-11-02 13:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is ok. I am a going to have my first in January, and believe me there isn't a day that goes by when I don't have doubts. It's hard to be sure about anything when you KNOW your whole world is going to be turned upside down. Just make sure that you keep a good support system around. They can really help when you think your not going to be able to take it. And remember it really will be worth it when you see what beauty you can create. Good luck and congrats!!!
2006-11-02 13:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal to have insecurities about being a first time parent. You would be abnormal if you didn't! My advice is to read all the info you can so you are less nervous when the time comes. If you educate yourself before you get into it you will know what to expect and how to deal with it. You can also figure out how you will act in certain situations before they happen instead of going crazy when it actually happens to you. If you are already pregnant I recommend the book MY PREGNANCY WEEK BY WEEK written by Dr. Glade B. Curtis. It is full of great info and easy to read and understand. I also swear by the book ON BECOMING BABYWISE written by Gary Ezzo & Robert Bucknam. They will help you get into a routine with your baby and helps especially if you are clueless as to how to take care of a baby. Get the books, and get educated early! You will feel much better about the experience. Good luck.
2006-11-02 13:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Diane A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very normal. Espeically if you do not have a good relationship with your own mother, or feel that you did not have a good role model. It can seem so over whelming, but remember that you are not alone. Every mom has those feelings from time to time. Actually, questioning yourself can be a good sign. It means you are really thinking the whole thing through, and you will be prepared.
2006-11-02 13:00:34 · answer #6 · answered by jenn_a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's okay. You will always have your doubts when pregnant, at any age or any stage. It's a major responsibilty to take on. Make sure you are ready before you commit to anything, and be sure that you are aware of all options. You will have doubts because you are going through something you have never experienced. Best of Luck!
2006-11-02 12:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley_Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its scary! But I promise you I had doubts, I was pregnant with twins my first and I worried constantly about whether I could do as good for them as they deserved. I worried because I could never tell twins apart, and I was having identicals! But don't worry! Forget the horror stories you hear about birthing, its not bad at all. And forget the stories of "your life is over" not true, your life is just beginning and its wonderful! Your hormones tend to drive you a little crazy and make you doubtful as well. Relax.....enjoy it!
2006-11-02 12:52:47 · answer #8 · answered by Super Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean being a first TIME mother then yes!
I'm 35 weeks pregnant with my first, terrified of giving birth and whether I'll be a good mother. But thats natural and as far as I know everyone feels that way.
Women do it every day so if they can then so can I!
2006-11-02 17:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big step, and a scary one. As your pregnancy progresses these worries will get more and more unfounded.
Babies do not come with a manual and they are all different. You could read up on the web and in magazines, this could make things worse, or it could put your mind at ease.
Do you have any friends or family who have had babies in the last few years, and who's parenting you agree with. Ask them to give you hints and tips.
Best of luck.
2006-11-02 12:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by FUGAZI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋