How do you tell your family that you would rather stay home with hubby and child for Thanksgiving?

Question

Oh yea we are going out of town.

Answer 1

Try and get your family to understand that you are wanting to start your own family tradition about Thanksgiving. If they dont understand and get upset dont let that sway you from what you really want to do.Its your family!!!!!

Answer 2

Well there is no one particular way in which you can express your feelings with your family in regards to this issue. To answer your question on a general level, one way of telling your family know that you would rather spend Thanksgiving with your Husband and child would be to call your mom and dad and invite them out for coffee or something to eat, or you can even go over to their place, sit down with them in a civilized manner and express to them that you would like to try something a little different for this holiday. Although you greatly enjoy being in their company over the holidays, you would like to try something at home a little smaller than usual to see how it goes. Ensure your parents or family that you will join them for the next holiday, Christmas by then would only be a month away. Or, to satisfy both parties, have something with your husband and child at one point of the day, say dinner, and maybe earlier in the day you can join your extended family for breakfast or lunch accompanied by your husband and child. This may or may not work. It is simply a suggestion. All the best.

Answer 3

Call where ever you're supposed to be going and say, "I'm sorry but we're not going to be able to make it for Thanksgiving this year, I'm just not up to it." Short and sweet, blame it on yourself but it's not really your fault or theirs if you're not "up to it". If they ask why just say, "We've just decided it would be best if we stayed home." Don't get into it with whoever you talk to...they will get over it. If you tell them that you want to start your own traditions they will take it that you don't like their traditions and that you will never be coming again which may or may not be the case. If you decide you do like Thanksgiving the new way it will be easier for you to bow out next year.

Answer 4

Oh thank you! I am so glad we aren't the only ones. Last year we just stayed home and didn't tell anyone until after Thanksgiving. We are thinking of doing it again this year. It was nice and peaceful. Good luck!

Answer 5

Just tell them and do what you think best. Family can be overbearing sometimes and make you think you have to be with them on holidays. Start your own tradition now - your kid and husband will appreciate you for it. It doesn't hurt to go see family every once in awhile on holidays, but don't do it every year - I did, and I wish I had stood up to them a long time ago. You will also enjoy the holiday more with your immediate family. Happy Holidays

Answer 6

I have been asking myself the same question my Mother in law asked what are WE doing for Thanksgiving and my Mom asked me the same thing i did not know what to say. When do me my kids and my husband get to do our own thing? So i just told them me and my family are having our dinner at home we all live blocks away from each other it's not going to kill us to not spend one day together. I also reminded them that they had other children who were not married they could spend it with.

Answer 7

I had this issue last yr - what i did was i told my family since we all live in the same town that it was time for me to start my own family traditions w/ my boys. My Bro's & Sis understood but my parents did not - they could not understand why i wanted to do this. Eventually they got it but it took a bit for them to realize i was serious and that i was not coming over to their house.
Stick to your guns and let them know that you need to do this for your family as they will not be around forever and you have to learn how to make your own special family Traditions :) good luck

Answer 8

"we want to stay home this year."

We have done it before, and were worried what people would say. nobody was upset. we see everyone a month later at thanksgiving anyway.

if you dont see them until next year, just tell them that this year has been hectic & you need the time for yourselves, and you will miss them, but promise to see them for next thanksgiving or xmas or easter or something.

Answer 9

..just tell them. Say that it is time that you begin your own family traditions. Perhaps(or not) it's your turn to have them over.

Tell them you're tired and you need time to relax. Tell them that since you work so much and the kids go to school, you have very little time together, and you'd like to have an intimate, quiet time with your family.

Answer 10

A good way to put this is to invite them to your house for Thanksgiving ,especially if you're pretty sure they'll decline and when they do ,you're free to enjoy your own Thanksgiving.