I 'm worried about the life the of my closest friend, she had a personal loss in her teenage and coped loss together with her family. She alone fought and struggled and became a successful woman in her career, a very good job. Of one of her best thing was, the faith she had in God. As any women, she wanted to get married and wished to have a good husband and children. She god married to a person who was a good friend to others, but not willing to adjust with life with her, Later we found out that he married because of the pressure from his parents and siblings for the marriage. It was too late.
Now she quited her job and is now with him in another country. Still living in sorrow and keeping faith in God that, one day his attitude will change.
I loved her very much as my friend, we fought, laughed, shared our joys, dreams, inspirations.... My parents liked her very much as a daughter. We are from different religions. She, a christian and me hindu. Can I tell her.... Can i help her..
2006-11-02 04:35:31 · 5 answers · asked by SK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As much as you want to help her and insure that her life is happy there is little you can do while she is married. Regardless of the reason they married they still are and until she gains the strength to leave and divorce there is little you can do.
You clearly love her and want only the best. You are a great friend an you must continue that. You may be her lifeline to hope so never give that up.
But you have to ask yourself if she divorced and were available would she want to marry you? And if the answer is yes would it be for love or convenience. She has convenience now and it is not good.
Your faith is only a problem if you let it be. If you had children what would you do about that.
Be her friend....let her know how much you value and love her. If she knows that she can come to you and talk of anything isn't that so much better than telling her and having her pull back. She may.
2006-11-02 05:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help guide her but the real "will power" has to come from her. First, she needs to see the issue that you see. Her being married will be tough to get her to see what you see. I know you care for her very much but the only thing that you can do at this point is to be a good caring friend. If you cross those boundry's then you chance losing her for good.
2006-11-02 12:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a true friend. How fortunate she is. There really isn't much you can do except be there for her, support her emotionally, and wait until she decides what to do. Just keep telling her that you care about her and her future and hope that she will find an answer to this situation.
2006-11-02 12:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound to me she is a very special person but the only way to help her is if she wants to be helped. I know you are worried about her and I would be sure to let her know.......and if you really want to marry her I would let her know that too but if you aren't ready for a marriage still be there as the good friend that you are and tell her that you are they for her for anything.
2006-11-02 12:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really sweet of you, but how would you marrying her help her? She needs to make a choice to leave her husband, you cannot save her. She is very lucky to have such a great friend in you, just do your best to be supportive and maybe she will see the light.
2006-11-02 12:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Carey L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋