2006-11-02 04:27:19 · 12 answers · asked by jozwiak36 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
IF, the issue is "CAN"T AFFORD A XMAS GIFT" and not some other relationship problem then sit down and talk.
Everyone loves gifts but it seems her motivation is feeling guilty if you gave her a gift and she had none to give you.
Agree that neither one will "BUY" a gift for each other. That both will select a present that you either make separately or together.
Some examples of together is help her paint her room/apartment/house. Detail her/your individual vehicles. Then also you both can go to a craft store and choose inexpensive materials to make a gift. Or go to a local dollar store store and get something. Or just buy or make nothing other than a special dinner for each other and just enjoy each other.
2006-11-02 04:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get her something anyway. I was invited to a party and the invite said "no gifts." I already had something small in mind anyway, and I'm glad I brought it. Well, everybody had brought gifts! So even if she says 'no gifts' she'll probably end up getting you something small at least. Just be creative. Get her a restaurant or movie theater gift certificate that you both can enjoy together. It's something you do anyway, but you can make it look like a gift that way.
2006-11-02 12:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by stuckinamoment 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get her something anyway.
The point of the gifts is to be a GIFT, meaning there's no expectation to get something in return. If you don't get her a gift anyway, you're basically saying that your motivation to get her something is because you expect something in return.
When you give it to her, tell her that you did it because you care about her, you want to see her smile, whatever, and that you in NO way are bothered by the fact that she can't give you something in return. Maybe you could say something like that the only thing you expect from her is to ENJOY what you gave her, and that can be her gift to you.
If that doesn't work, try talking together beforehand and see if you'd want to give presents that you make, not that you buy. This will force you to get creative, and will be really meaningful.
2006-11-02 17:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a scented candle. Her favorite smell. Then include a hand-made certificate for "pampering". Make her feel like she can have anything at all without making her feel like material goods are important. That way, she won't feel bad about not getting you anything for christmas and you won't feel bad for not getting her anything. And the scented candle can be used to add a little something extra if she decides she doesn't want to go to a spa for some massaging... ;)
2006-11-02 14:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would give her something small but meaningful and tell her you are not giving a gift to get something in return but, only to make her feel special
2006-11-02 12:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give her something simple and personal, but don't put any pressure on her to get you anything.
2006-11-02 13:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her things you can't wrap, like a nice dinner or a scenic drive.
2006-11-02 12:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Save a few bucks and marry her.
2006-11-02 12:46:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give her something and make her feel good about herself.
2006-11-02 12:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
make her something personal... a poem, a sketch, a hand-make card... something that's about you, not about the pricetag.
2006-11-02 12:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋