My husband has been deployed to iraq it's been about a month since he left. I keep having dreams about a officer coming to my door in class a's and telling me that my husband is dead. I've been having them almost everynight, i wake up shaking and scared. I try not to think about it him in iraq and try to be very active during that day. I want to know what i can do to stop these nightmares from happening?
2006-11-02 04:19:59 · 17 answers · asked by daddys_girl319 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should find a group for women whose husbands have been deployed to Iraq. You need to vent your worries. It will not make your concerns go away, but it will help ease them.
2006-11-02 04:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to thank your husband for serving! Second, the dreams you are dreaming are a natural occurrence when you have no control over a situation. You fear the worse and your dreams are acting out that fear. It is important that you talk to somebody about your fears and anxieties. I am sure there is counseling at the base... and you could talk to other wives in the same situation. For me (and I am not a real religious man) I made it a point to go to 7am mass every day of the week while my son was deployed. I just sat in the last row and kept my son in my thoughts... It seemed to help and the dreams went away.
Good luck to you and I (and I'm sure all others responding) will pray for your husband's safe return.
2006-11-02 12:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to read before bed. Maybe think of things you've done together that are happy times. Watch a movie before bed or even think of the day that he'll come home to you and what you'll do together. The mind is a funny thing, but if you concentrate on something happy before you go to bed, maybe you can change those dreams and make them so they're not nightmares.
2006-11-02 12:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by G M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for war wives to have these dreams. Your husband has been put in a highly dangerous situation for a long period of time. You should try to see a psychologist and talk out some of these fear issues you have. You may find that the dreams will subside.
2006-11-02 12:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by Brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart - this is a trying experience for you. I had two brothers who served in Vietnam, but that's not the same, I know. What I did to take my mind off of the dangers there was to write letters and keep them informed of our life in hometown USA. It helped me to cope with it, and they both said that it helped them cope in Vietnam (to keep their minds actively thinking about home). I wrote at least a letter a week sometimes more. I hear the mail delivery has improved since Vietnam era. I know this isn't much, but maybe it will help. God bless both of you for helping in this war - you have as much influence in the matter as your husband does. We pray for the soldiers every day because we realize that it is a lonesome and often thankless task that they are doing. We will pray that God will protect him from harm.
2006-11-02 12:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask you doc for a sedative to help you sleep. You are anxious and with good reason. The news shows us the worst of everything. Keep your prayers regular and everytime you think about it in between. Ultimately the only shield he has is God, and no one can protect him. So arm him with God's protection in your prayers, and arm yourself with peace as well through prayer. What else can you do???
It's so hard on those soldiers and their families. No doubt when he comes home he will have post traumatic stress and it will take some time to wind down. I'm sure for you to. Good luck to you both, and God bless you both. I pray he comes home to you, and that your life together resumes beautifully.
2006-11-02 12:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to counseling, and request they prescribe you a sleeping aid. I use Lunesta and it helps me sleep through the night with no nightmares. Though in your case it is very specific, you are scared for your husband. Counseling should help with getting your fears and emotions out and a sleep aid will get you some much needed rest. I am sorry you are going through this.
2006-11-02 12:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dreams tell alot of how you really feel, in your subconcious, this is your worst fear. I don't know that you can do anything about it, other than before you go to sleep, put him out of your mind(that will be hard to do). Other than that, I don't know what you can do. If it is getting to you, then I would suggest seeing a therapist, they may have a few ideas. Good luck to you sweetie, and God bless you and your husband. :)
2006-11-02 12:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was in Iraq for 15 months...he came back alive....don't worry...pray to the good load for your husband safe return....i'll pray too!
2006-11-02 12:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live on base? Are there other wives in your same situation that you could talk to or meet with. I think in this instance becoming friends with someone in the same situation would be a lifesaver for you.
Good luck to you and your family. My prayers are with you all.
2006-11-02 12:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋