I just got engaged to someone that i have been with for a short time. that i love very much.
But with that said i just got out of a 2 year relationship with someone... He is talking about wanting me back and a part of me wants him back too.
But i love the other man and we are getting married in 8 months!!!
What should i do?
2006-11-02 04:17:44 · 14 answers · asked by heather_honey_2002hs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be and my ex where together for 2 years, bought a house together and lived together for a year.
We have since broken up because he didn't want to make it work.
I recently met a wonderful man and just got engaged to him and we are getting married in 8 months.
Even though me and the ex couldn't never work i still sometimes want it to.
But the new guy in my life treats me better than i thought anyone could. ANd i love him and care about him soo much!
I could really see my self wtih both of them?
what should?
Stay with someone i love and i know i would be very happy with.
or call it off and wait for the ex that will never commit to me?
2006-11-02 04:27:03 · update #1
YOU JUMPED FROM THE FRY PAN INTO THE FIRE. IF YOU ARE ENGAGED IN SUCH A SHORT TIME. YOU NEVER HAD A GRIEVING PERIOD FOR YOUR LOST RELATIONSHIP.
THE FACT THAT YOU ARE HAVING FEELINGS FOR THE EX WORRIES ME.
YOU NEED TO GIVE THE RING BACK TO THE NEW FELLOW AND TELL HIM YOU ARE NOT READY FOR IT, EVEN THO YOU LOVE HIM.
YOU NEED TO RESOLVE THE OLD FEELINGS YOU HAD FOR THE EX BEFORE YOU MOVE ON TO SOMEONE ELSE.
THE NEW GUY DESERVES THIS AND YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY IF YOU FOLLOW THROUGH WITH THE WEDDING SO QUICKLY BECAUSE YOU WILL ALWAYS BE WONDERING WHAT IF.....
CALL IT OFF.. IF THIS NEW GUY REALLY LOVES YOU, HE WILL NOT BE IN A BIG HURRY AND I THINK HE WOULD WANT YOU 100% NOT 60- 40.
IF YOU MARRY HIM AT THIS POINT FEELING THE WAY YOU DO , YOU ARE BEING VERY SELFISH AND FOOLISH.
2006-11-02 04:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were you broken up before you got into a relationship with somebody new? This has all the earmarks of a rebound relationship all over it.
On the first relationship: it's broken, and the past has passed. Move on.
On the second relationship, this doesn't sound good. You are engaged and having second thoughts about an ex?
I think you need to learn to live alone and figure out who you are and what you want in a relationship, personally.
2006-11-02 12:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself. If you love the engaged man why would you want the other back? Maybe because it's something safe and predictible? I'd make a list of pros and cons. But whatever you do, don't get married to any until you find out why and who you want.
2006-11-02 12:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by G M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide who you really love.You are the best person to judge this. Getting married has to mean the real thing for you.You have to be committed and once committed. There is no turning back.All marriages are not perfect, a very small number are. So why add to the number of the unhappy married.
2006-11-02 12:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by stewart j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to take a step back before you regret your decsion. It would be wrong to marry this man that you are engaged to if your heart is still with the old flame. Really do some soul searching. Good luck to you!
2006-11-02 12:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me you have kinda answer your question. The guy who want to marry sound like he really loves you without string attach and the other guy well now that you are taken wants you back because you are taken. It didn't work the first time with him what make you think it will the second time specially with the other guy out of the picture..............
2006-11-02 12:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you still have feelings for the ex, and thats ok. But, before you actually marry the current boyfriend, be absolutely sure of your feelings for him. Marriage is a huge committment, and if you both vow to be only eachothers, can be very hard if the feelings aren't true.
2006-11-02 12:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by justjim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a note pad and write down the both names of the guys one name to a page now put all the things u like about them then the things u love.see which one comes out with more points then do the same things for the things u dont like.alsothink about why u broke up the first guy and if you can handle it if whatever you broke up for happens again.
2006-11-02 12:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by classichristian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the one who you cannot live without.
2006-11-02 12:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. If you are still thinking about this other guy then you can't be that committed to your fiancee.
2006-11-02 12:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by Monica V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋