Relationship with married work friend?

Question

Has anyone done this and what were their experiences, good and bad?

Just to clarify.. I'm not thinking of doing this but I know someone who is.

Answer 1

They are married.. what are you thinking? It can only be bad.. very bad.

Answer 2

My advice to your friend would be "Do not go down that path". Married people are out of bounds and it is rarely a good thing to get embroiled with colleagues unless they are single and absolutely free.
All the people I have met who went ahead with that kind of relationship either got hurt themselves or were the cause of a nasty marriage breakdown. I cannot count the number of girls who thought they would "just be friends" and ended in bed, then were kept on a string with promises of marriage for years, whilst the husband had no intention of leaving his wife. I also know quite a few men who broke their wife's heart and exchanged her for a newer model (namely the young secretary in the office) when all they started with was "harmless flirtation".

Answer 3

Two things wrong with this.

They are married. You better not be looking for a long term relationship.
You are dating at work. This is never a good idea especially with a married person. The complications of this relationship will be significant. I.E. Rumor mill can make your life miserable.

Answer 4

Yes I did it 4 times. The first 2 were just one night stands and they were fun. The 3rd was a short affair and it was good too. But the last and final one was a long affair that turned into a fatal attraction situation. Eventually I had to find another job at my choosing. She turned into the 'b-i-t-c-h from hell". At first the sex was fantastic, that is why it lasted so long. But in the end it was a real nightmare. Good luck with yours and you can e-mail me if you need more support.

Answer 5

I thought about it but I never went through with it. You should never mix pleasure with business especially when they're married. Trust me strange things have a way of coming back to haunt you. That's too much burden to hold. The saying "what goes around comes around" is really true. You don't want it to happen to you when you're married right? So I think you should leave it alone.

Answer 6

i did it. it was fun. gave me the self esteem i needed to move out of the relationship i was in at the time and know i was able to be with someone better. he was married and never made any inclination he was ever leaving his wife. i didn't expect him to. it was for fun only. we both got separate jobs, and moved on. it wasn't a bad experience personally. but it wasn't a good choice either.

Answer 7

Yes I have. I guess it all boils down to what you want from the relationship. If you don't expect anything, you will not be disappointed. If you think they will leave their spouse, probably not. It worked out ok for me. We both parted on good terms.

Answer 8

I guess you need to define RELATIONSHIP. My wife and I have friends of all sexes. A friendly relationship is always good (as long as you can control yourself).

If by relationship, you mean intimate..... this is not a good thing

Answer 9

the relationship was good but the wife was a nightmare she became the ex from hell and made him pay for what he did. I will never do it again. to much bull to put up with it's not worth it.

Answer 10

Still friends after a long affair that didn't work out for either of us.

Answer 11

What do you mean by relationship? Going to lunch together, kissing, what? If you don't want to ruin the other person's marriage, don't get so close.