What if you had been married for more than 20 years and had kids involved and then you found out? What would u do?
2006-11-02 03:51:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A person in that situation would be devastated, of course, and it is a matter of betrayal that would be so emotionally traumatic that I'm not sure most people have enough generosity of spirit to forgive that so easily. Unfortunately, we live in a society that often forces men and women to adopt roles they don't want to in order to earn the approval of society. I feel only sympathy for all the people involved in such a situation.....
2006-11-02 03:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I probity sit down and have a good cry and then suck it up and take care of the problem the way I needed to be take care of. If the person is gay then there is nothing you can do you need to be honest with the kids cause this person is there parent and they will love them or atleast love them still. They may not understand why this is happening but this person has been a big part of there life he is or she is the same person in a way. Just choices to live a different life style. It sucks but it something you need to work thur.
2006-11-02 12:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, like you I'm sure, would feel very betrayed.
The problem is that often gays do not know they are until something triggers it. They may not feel right in the marriage but it is what is expected so they do it.
Your only option is divorce. He/She will not change no matter how much they love you or you love them. And after out of the closet so to speak I would think sex would be no more.
I knew of a man that fell right into this situation. He was a professor at a local college. When he knew he was gay they divorced and he moved to another city.
You deserve much more than that.
2006-11-02 11:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel like I was living a lie... I would be upset that he hid behind my skirt for so long instead of being himself and being okay with himself. I don't know what I would do.
I know a woman that is married to a gay man and they have 2 kids already out of college. They get along really well...I don't know if she really knows though, but then how could you not....but I think he cheats on her with other men. It would just be really hard to find out something like that.
2006-11-02 12:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by redbeansandrice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats hard. I would be very hurt. I would accept that my partner is gay and then ask well now what do we do?
The most importnant thing is that i am happy. Right? Also if my man isn't happy then i'm not either /vice versa. i wouldn't want to live this way, i would be mad,sad,hurt, confussed but i'd say lets move on with our lives respectfully, if thats what the gay partner wants.
Be supportive, Don't try to change the person, listen, love and realize that you yourself deserve to be happy not living your life making someone else happy Ok. Make yourself happy. Life is short so live it.
Good Luck to you hun.
2006-11-02 11:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally I support them no matter what, mind you I wold get a divorce though and find someone else to be with but I have no issues with anyone being gay, and to boot I would also leave the ex partner stay living with me in the basement so that the children can see the partner anytime they wanted to, but make sure you sit with the children and explain the situation and hopefully there mature enough and understand it!
2006-11-02 11:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't gay they are Bi. If you are interested and open minded then let them bring someone home and all three of you can have fun together. IF not than you have to figure out what is best for you to do, either stay or go.
2006-11-02 11:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by logisticswizard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personnally would stand by my loved ones decision,as o would prefer that my children were brought up in a true environment than a false one.My advice would be to face the truth and be happy than live a unhappy household
2006-11-02 11:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think "Now that explains ALOT of stuff!"
And then we would have to have a very, very important discussion about what we are going to do about this and if we are going to stay together and what about the children...........I would think if my husband came out with something like that.There would sure be alot to talk about!
2006-11-02 11:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing...well i have been living with this person and they were that all along and neither him nor i felt strange and we were fine so i guess keep pretending u do not know unless he she wants to get a new person involved and unless u are homophobic i am not so i guess i would not care...i would be surprise though
2006-11-02 11:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by dudette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋