Help me please ..... Urgent !?

Question

What should I do ....

I am 13 . I went onto this correspondent thing to get a correspondent and met this boy ( I wasn't looking for love ) . But we fell in love with each other . I saw him on webcam etc ... I knew I wasn't aloud to give my e mail address to someone I didn't know but we no one is perfect . Anyway I told my parents because I felt bad for diobeying me . They didn't tell me off but just told me to make a new msn account and not add anyone I didn't know ( never seen in real ) I did as they said . I told the boy I couldn't speak with him again and I was devestated and so was he. I told my friends and they said that the would add him . So what I did is I wrote messages to my frinds who then copied and pasted them eto the boy ( bf ) . It got soo hard . I added him again . Knowing I shouldn't but this was love ! It was harder then me . Anyway we have now being talking for a couple of months and our relastionship is getting stronger everyday . continuing ... below

It was his birthday so I wrote to him . Should I tell my parents ? I really want them to get involved ( in a good way ) in the relationship . I have never met him but I hope that you understand that we really do love each other and don't question that . I am scared that if I tell my parents they will stop me from talking to him . etc ... And I don't want tha to happen . So do I tell them or not ? I really need to know what you think serious answers please !!!

Please understand that I know he is not a pervert or anything it's difficut to explain but I know it .

Answer 1

yes tell them! they can help to protect you when some pervert comes along and trys to rape and kill you.
seriously, THINK ABOUT THIS.

Answer 2

sweety! the problem is that you know and your parents have told you Im sure that you never really know who you are talking to.. seriously your parents have your best intrest in mind. Ive got a story to tell you and its true so please read it... There was this girl ( she's 12) she was talking to an online friend that was also 12. they talk for several months and became very good friends. through the course of their conversations he would as silly questions that had no relevence what so ever. like when she would talk about her soccer team winning once he asked what school she played for!! she never thought any thing of it. several times he asked where her parents where and several times she told him they were at work. he also asked if she had any brothers or sisters? she told him she was an only child! ok so now you say big deal but listen<<<< One day she was walking home from soccer practice when she got an eeryy fealing that someone was behind her. she ran home as fast as she could. locked the doors and called her mom.. SMART GIRL>> well when her parents got home they where greated by a police officer who explained to them that he worked under cover and had been talking to their daughter as a 12 year old boy for months.. she told him when her parents werent home just enough that he figured out when they would be gone and by telling him her school name he went to soccer practice and spotted the jersey with her nickname on it and figured it out because her handle was simular. with this and the fact that she had no brothers or sisters he knew she would be alone and if he had been a predator he could have done her harm. so see you never know who the other person is or how long they will wait to slowly get the info they need to get what they want. and you may not give him any info but what if one of your friends talked to him one time and mentioned your school mascot or your real name or anything these guys dont need much to go on. SO PLEASE TELL YOUR PARENTS AND END THIS RELATIONSHIP AND MOVE ON TO A BOY THAT YOU CAN SEE AND TALK TOO!!! THOUGH IT WILL HURT JUST THINK OF HOW BAD IT WILL HURT TO FIND OUT THAT MINOR CASE OF DISOBEYING COST YOU OR SOMEONE YOU LOVE TOO GET HURT!!!!

Answer 3

I'm not trying to be hard on you about this but you have to stop it. I understand that your feelings are real to you but you cannot truly fall in love with someone you have never met. I'm sure you disagree with me so I won't go into that anymore.

It's crazy that you're even bothering to follow through with this since everyone knows about the situation with internet predators. If they know you are 13 they will do ANYTHING to trick you. A lot of them have children of their own so they know all the right things to say to make it seem like they are 13. Maybe you're actually talking to this kids father and he's forcing his son to appear on a webcam. Maybe this kid is being PAID by someone to trick you and they're trying to gain your trust now only to kidnap you later. There are too many risks involved.

If you insist on continuing this online relationship then you can NEVER let him know too much about you. Even telling someone what school you go to is dangerous. 25 year olds get raped and murdered because they fell in love online and mention where they work or something. Your parents might seem like they're overeacting and maybe they do sometimes but they just don't want to see you get killed. If you refuse to listen to your parents then you have to learn things in life the hard way. You end up going through a lot more pain that way.

What the hell are you getting out of this anyway? A long distance "boyfriend" that you'll never see? Who wants that kind of relationship? And believe me, you will NEVER meet him. If you ever sneak away to see him and you don't wind up killed or raped, your parents will FREAK OUT and you will NEVER have any contact with him again. I'm sure they will take away every bit of freedom you have and you will be miserable and wish you never got involved with this in the first place.

Answer 4

Be upfront and honest with your parents. Tell them you really like this boy and want them to understand how you feel towards him. Try and make them understand that you are trying to be honest and upfront with them by telling them this in the first place.
On another note though you are too young to understand what a true relationship entails and feelings are often misleading. Please understand that young boys are many times looking for a score and when that is done he moves on to the next.
My daughter was around your age when she thought she loved this boy and after the encounter he stopped talking to her. She never told us she was involved with him and to find out from her friends was devastating to us as parents. Please don't hurt your parents and lie about what you are doing, in the end the trust issue is out the window and it takes a long time to re-build the trust back. Good luck

Answer 5

How do you know that the guy you saw on the webcam is him? How do you know it is not some pervert praying on little girls? And at 13 you don't know what being in love is. By all means you should tell your parents that you disobeyed them and benefit from what they are telling you. They are trying to protect you. The internet is not a place to fall in love at your age.

Answer 6

Your 13 years old and you have a lot of very good years ahead of you.There will be a lot of young men in you life, if you decide to stay on the course you going by all means get your parents involved in this situation. let them meet this young man first if they want you involved with him.But don't lie.Your parent will respect you for that.

Answer 7

You have to get away from this right away! Just because you have seen his web cam picture does not mean he isn't dangerous, or that someone isn't using him to trap you. He is not your boyfriend, you have never met him. You need to make friends with real people.