I've got a friend who is in the middle of a divorce and lonely. Have you ever tried the Christian internet dating services and were they any good? Would you recommend one?
2006-11-02 03:01:07 · 12 answers · asked by True Blue Brit 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm not particularly religious - just looking out for my friend who is!
Get off my back, guys! Stick to the question.
2006-11-02 03:06:32 · update #1
yes, try it - why not? You never know who you might meet, and go with her to start with as her confidence might not be so great. Good luck!
2006-11-02 03:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never mentioned what HER particular beliefs are. But generally speaking I don't believe internet matchmaking is the way for anybody to go. We are "wired" to interract with others, in the romantic sense, through the long established physical connection - actually being IN the company of that other person so you can truly observe all of the behaviours and responses and little quirks and foibles of that individual.
If I were in the market for a husband, I know I would want to a ctually SEE how that particular man reacted to the many different situations of real life that we would one day have to deal with together as a couple. I'd want to see how he acted around my family, my friends, out in public. How was he behind the wheel... a calm, efficient, stable driver, or a "road-rager". Did he burp at the dining table in front of people, slurp his soup, eat with his mouth open, blow his nose on his napkin..... or do any one of the dozens of little "irritating things" that might not seem so important at first, but after you've had to deal with it for a time, might get to be a big source of personal disgust.
This, and a whole lot of other things, you will never be able to "get" from the Internet, or even over the telephone. And how many people are you going t o pack your bags and go visit... or invite to visit you for a week or two, only to discover that they were not at all, in the flesh, like the person you had been communicating with in cyberspace?
If this woman is just going through divorce, she's probably feeling pretty "sensitive" right now. She doesn't need to go rushing into any relationships like a bat out of hell.. and most especially not one that is so "disconnected" as an internet one is bound to be. If she's a christian woman herself, she probably has a church she attends, or could join one, and get involved in some of the social activities. That would certainly help her through the "lonely" phase somewhat, and she could well meet a nice man there too, in time.
2006-11-02 03:20:34 · answer #2 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who met their husband through an internet dating service - not sure which one though, but it probably doesn't matter because they all do the same job.
My only concern would be that on the internet it is easier for people to be dishonest about themselves - i.e. putting up photos of other people or which show what they looked like 10 years ago. Why don't you advise her to go a big church. I am a Christian and I know for certain that churches are full of single men and women. I met my wife in church - better to meet people face to face, me thinks.
2006-11-02 03:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a Christian, and I've never tried one, but i'm not a bible quoting Chritain, i jut let people get on with their lives and that doesn't bother me, If I can live in peace, I will, however, I would only expect the next person to be like that, regardless of whatebver religion they follow!
2006-11-02 03:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.I would not reccomend this. I have never used this service, and I am married. But, just because someone claims to be Christian in life, or online, does NOT make it so. I have heard horror stories from people who tried this, tho I would never have tried it myself. I am Christian, and I met my husband at Bible study. But, I watched certain friends go thru this, and I still see a few now. A few did work out, but most are horror stories. I would never reccomend this to anyone. Get out and go places and do things, and thats how you meet people. Meet them in church, church singles groups, but even then, there is no guarantees. Check them out. Many go to church just to find a person for love and only wnt to use them. Yes, I have seen that too, often, even at church. Saying you are Christian does NOT mean you are. Just not good to be meeting people you dont know anyhow. Meet people your friends know, your pastor knows,,etc, and even then, check them out. People can fool others if they want to, and are good enough at it. My last husbsand was a supposed Christian. Lets just say No, and it didnt work out. The proof is in how they act. Not what they CLAIM to be. There are too many out in this world that desire only to hurt you, use you, maim you, and even kill you. stick with people that others know that know YOU. the only way to go. I did met my husband at a bible study, but he knew two friends of mine. So, I got to know family, etc. No taking chances. GOd gives us a spirit of hope , not fear. BUt, He also gives us a brain and expects us to use it.
2006-11-02 04:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by full gospel shirley 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive not tried them personally but my friend is and he getting married in few weeks time so yeah guess they work and their ok
2006-11-02 07:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and wouldnt. Christians think if they go to church they will be treated as special by God, they need to get over it, as God is everywhere and treats us all equally!
2006-11-02 03:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi other may prefer to use internet some otherwise
2006-11-02 06:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by rosej 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is a jehovahs witness
Take a look at JWMATCH. com
Worth a laugh!!!!!!
2006-11-02 03:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nigi-magic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah best one is godlyswingers.com
2006-11-02 03:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋