i use to buy her jewlery now she says she wants clothes and shoes. i never get the right size and we have different ideas of what is nice or not. she never seems to be happy, i buy it the next day she takes it back and get something else. i told her im gonna just get her gift cert. and she got mad. what to do.. i think i might just go back to jewlery. help.
2006-11-02 02:58:25 · 32 answers · asked by justincase119 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
you sound like a very nice person an she "sounds" like a spoiled brat!!i'm sorry to say that. it sounds like you can't please her so your idea of gift certificates sounds like the answer.why are you buying her gifts?? is she your wife?? is it her birthday or some special day?? whatever, she sounds like a very lucky girl to have someone who cares so much, good luck to you n God Bless!!!
2006-11-02 03:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by snookieoo3 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, no offense to you, but she sounds like one ungrateful little spoiled brat. She should be happy that you want to buy her things, instead of telling you what to buy, and complaining when it's the wrong size. It's no wonder you wanted to just buy her a gift certificate. And what's wrong with her that she doesn't want more jewelry?
OK, enough ranting :-)
Since she has already requested something besides jewelry, she may get even madder if you go back to buying it. If you want to make the effort to keep buying her clothing, then make a list of all the things you need to know to pick out clothing.
So start by making a list of the sizes she wears, from head to toe, including underwear (some shirts go by bra size, not a Juniors or Missie's size chart). Take a look at her tags, or ask her for them. You need specifics, not just small, medium, or large. Odd numbers are Juniors, even numbers are Missie's.
Then ask her what she likes, and what she doesn't like. Make sure you listen to her, and get as many reasons as possible. If you have a reason something is good or bad, it makes it easier to remember when she's not with you. A list of do's and don'ts can be hard to think of, but knowing why something doesn't work for her can be applied to other pieces of clothing as well.
For example, she says she doesn't like mini skirts because she thinks they look trampy. So you know to stay away from short dresses, and mini shorts for the same reason.
You could even try going shopping with her, in stores or on line, and let her pick out several things to put on a wish list. Then you have a set list of items to choose from when it's time to buy her something. Many on line stores have it already set up where you can choose things to save for later in a shopping cart or gift list.
She should be agreeable to any of this. It would show that you care enough to make the effort to please her, and buy what she wants. If not, then it's time to find a new girlfriend who will appreciate your thoughtfullness and generiosity of giving.
2006-11-02 03:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. A woman who doesn't appreciates the gifts her man brings her, when his thoughtful enough to think of her. Interesting. Go with her and learn what she like and if you are truly interested in what she likes, ask questions so you can know exactly how to handle the situation next time. Now if she continues with the stank attitide, take back all your gifts, and dump dat chick. There are plenty of women out there that would be THRILLED to recieve your tokens of affection.
BTW:Old wives tale-Never buy shoes for someone, because the will walk out of your life forever. Unless that is what you want.
2006-11-02 03:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky Lola 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would go back to jewlery if I were you. It is very hard and personal prefernce in purchasing clothes. Unless you go with her and she states she likes something have her try it on and then carry on shopping but go back and have a salesperson put it on hold for you till you can get back there. Make sure she really likes what she is trying on though.
2006-11-02 03:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude of her! She should be happy you are at least trying to buy her what she wants. I'd just tell her that if she isn't happy you'll get her gift certificates and if that makes her mad.....I'd stop buying her anything. I am always pleased when my husband buys me something even if it isn't me because I see the love and effort he put into choosing the gift. It's the thought that counts!
2006-11-02 03:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by MILAYA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay closer attention to what she buys when she does buy clothes. Then you can kind of guess her style. Go to the clothing store she bought it from and show the sales rep what she got and ask if there are any accessories you could get to go with it. Or, the sales rep could even show you what else they have in that style that she may like. The people who work in clothing stores can help you alot if you show them the kind of things you are looking for.
If that doesn't work, stick to jewelry and things you know she won't take back everytime.
2006-11-02 03:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by CarolinaGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm gonna be honest with you and tell you that you should look for someone else. someone who appreciates you more. i'm sure you're a great guy and you'll be able to find some one else.
but if you insist, then i guess i'll try to help you out.
Why don't you try and just give her some money and tell her that she needs a girl's night out so she can relax. Just tell her to go get a manicure and stuff, and go buy some clothes and shoes. she'll apreciate the gesture and maybe now she'll go easier with you. just as long as you do it lovingly, not because you're not good at picking stuff out for her.
by the way, thanks for helping me out with my question earlier. i hope i helped as well.
2006-11-04 08:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by Yay! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her what you want to get her; if she doesn't like it, let her take it back. It's strange to me, but I know that some women get as much pleasure from taking something back as they do from the gift. If her complaining is getting on your nerves (it sure would if I were you), dump her and find somebody who will appreciate the fact that you're a nice guy who's considerate enough to buy her a gift!
2006-11-02 03:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jewelery always does it for me. It sounds like she is very hard to please so no matter what you get her she is not going to like it. If she is not receptive to the gift card idea, maybe take her shopping and let her pick of the clothes and shoes. Make if a fun day. Hope this helps. I would just be thrilled for my husband to do either!!
2006-11-02 03:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Lorrie W 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take her to the mall walk around w/her have her try on some cloths (make sure you look at her size) then the next day buy it for her ...
2006-11-02 03:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by maria * 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get her a gift card and a set limit, she's not happy then she can buy her own clothing. jewlerys not good enough then nothing is good enough, if she wants clothes then she needs to buy her own if she complains then move on without her, if she is nit-picking then she doesn't care for you, when my guy gets me soemthing and it's ugly i'm excited he thought of me not what it is.
when you love someone an ugly sweater is not a ugly sweater
2006-11-02 03:01:14 · answer #11 · answered by Juleette 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋