talk tp her .i mean we have been bestfriends though our whole lives..she told me that she wasnt going to do that...but i believe it is because of the guy she was supposed to have it with...i hate him because of that now i dont know what to do....i was even saving money for the baby she was supposed to have ....i aint talking to her at the moment....
2006-11-02 02:57:23 · 17 answers · asked by deborah_25_2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
but one of our famikly members were going to adot her baby and take it as there own...and she said YES to it...i told her i couldnt talk to her for aahile.now she is saying im not a big lost...
2006-11-02 03:27:38 · update #1
It's her choice. Whether you believe in them or not, it is still HER choice. If you were a good friend than you would understand that she is going through a hard time right now and needs people to rely on and you should be a good friend and be there for her. Its not up to you to judge her.
2006-11-02 03:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by flutterby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in abortion either and when my friend got one i told her that i didnt believe in them and i hate pepole who would kill there unborn child but i had also told her that was her choice because im wasnt gonna be the one dealing with a kid at a young age actually she has a 8mnth old and got pregnant again but the father doesnt wanna have anything to do with the child or his first baby either anyways what i am trying to say is understand her situation if she is just being selfish then yes i can see y u are upset but what can u do thats her body and if she isnt ready she isnt ready just talk to her and let her know how u feel and next time she should use protection or get on birth control to avoid a unwanted pregnancy! hope all goes well
2006-11-02 11:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
I understand you aint talking to your friend right now, but, if you have her e-mail adress send a massage as soon as posible. Don't blame her for what she wants to do, but tell her that this can affect her life realy badly especially because she to is actually hezitating. A person who don't want to accept that he will become a father is anything but an trusting loving and carefull person. Why to search for love in that direction? He probably will dump her anyway sooner or later cose he might consider , after asking her to kill her baby, that he need to find somebody else because bla bla bla ( stupid, ******* boys thinking).
I know that for you this is a really difficult problem, especially because it's about a good friend of yours, but try to understand that there is not much you can do about it. But if your friend will decided to go for it, give her your support if she will ever need it(feel bad, very depressed....).
Now, what you can do, is to talk to her, tell her that you want to remain her friend and not argue if she will said that she will do the abortion. ( in any circumstance don't you ever blame yourself for some reason related to this event)
I can tell you how I regret this cose lots of teenagers are tented to consider that an abortion is the best way to "solve" a problem and then many of them will discover that their entire lifes are ruined. Cose there is no greater guilt than that of knowing that your child is dead simply because you decidet so.
One thing is for sure: there is absolutly no man out there which deserve this kind of sacriface and .....I am going to repeat myself, what kind of person is her boyfriend? You see, try to make her realize that, if he really love her, he will surtantly not ask her to do something like this.
Yes, no doubt that she love him, but this love will end someday, and thats when the guilts will start to show up and they will last for a life time....
In the end, if she already done it .....just try to remain friends, even you strongly dissagree her decision. Some things in life are wey above us....
2006-11-02 11:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Night Sorrows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is going through a rough enough time as it is without you placing judgment upon her. Even if it may not have been what YOU would have done, you won't know that until YOU are in that position, and I hope you never are.This was her decision to make, not yours. Be a friend to her, she is really going to need you. The emotional and mental and sometimes physical consequences of this decision don't end with the act.
2006-11-02 11:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not talk to her just because she did something that is against your morals and values? It is her baby, NOT yours and she had every right to do what she wants to do. You shouldn't even have to hate her boyfriend because your friend chose to get the abortion on her own. Continue to be there for your friend and be the kind of friend that she needs to have in her life. Put all your morals and values aside and BE THERE FOR HER!!! Stop being such a stuck up just because she chose to terminate her pregnancy.
2006-11-02 11:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should still talk to her. That's what friends are for.
You aren't always going to have the same beliefs as all your friends that's what makes each person unique in their own way.
You should just be there for her because she may be going thru a rough time.
I know a few people that had abortions and they regret it.
You just need to be there for her.
2006-11-02 11:15:02 · answer #6 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs you right now. She is going through an incredibly difficult time and the one thing she doesn't need is you being angry and distant - she needs care and support. I understand you were saving money for the baby, but this is a lifetime commitment and she made the choice that was right for her.
2006-11-02 11:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by HocusPocus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a sad situation, if your truly friends you would support her in whatever way she needs. And question... why on earth are you saving for her baby? Is it yours? No! Don't get yourself into that kind of mess. Abortion is a touchy issue, but should be legal bc its a right that all women should have, but shouldn't be taken advantage of.
2006-11-02 11:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is a very personal issue, and can only be decided by the woman involved. If you're truly her friend, then you need to respect her decision, even though you disagree with it. Try being a true friend.
2006-11-02 11:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the most shallow person I have ever heard of. Dont talk to her, you are doing her a favour. How can you judge the situation, it is everyone's individual decision - if it was my friend I would stick by her no matter what. If she is clever she will realise that you are not worth worrying about.
2006-11-02 11:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋