Iam 6 months pregnant and all I think about day and night is the labor, the pain of giving birth...It scares the hell out of me. I dont want to go through it, but I know i have no choice.
2006-11-02 02:47:09 · 22 answers · asked by PRETTYGIRL 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I bet this is your first baby. Don't worry. Speaking from personal experience the only reason your scared is because however much the midwifes and books and friends tell you, you don't know what to expect. I always asked how do I know when the baby is going to come out, I was worried it was going to plop out on the floor. It's easy to say but try not to let it bother you as you don't want to be more stressed out. Speak to your midwife, ask her to go through things in more detail. I'm 6 months pregnant with my 2nd daughter. Just think it can't be that bad because look at how many women have more than 1 baby, if it was that bad I would of never got pregnant again.there are thousands of women all over the world having babies every minute of every day, I'm sure your not the only one who is scared. Definitely speak to your midwife she will be able to put your mind at ease.
Goodluck xx
2006-11-02 02:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think there are so many elected c-sections in this country. Everyone becomes afraid of delivery ... even doctors and nurses, sigh.
Funny thing, I was more scared to let a doctor cut me open than giving birth. I guess it is because of my farm and pet background, but I never feared labor and delivery.
I delivered three healthy girls without any drugs or surgery aid. I did request that the doctors tear the placenta to allow my water to break. For some reason the last doctor would not do it, and I had to deliver the baby entrapped in amionic fluid. When it burst both doctors were doused and my little girl had her cord wrapped around her neck. They just unwrapped it and washed everyone off.
The pain of the contractions are no worse than having a kidney infection or appendicitis, as I had both of those too. The big pain of actually delivery last for all of 15 - 20 seconds if you are in good shape and push the little angel out. Even if you don't, it doesn't last the whole time of delivery, or it did not for me. Afterwards you are just so totally caught up in the baby and its health and wellfare, the pain pretty much fades away ... if you allow it. Some nurses and doctors push even more drugs after birth, but then you cannot do much with the cutie and you cannot even try to breast feed your baby. I used icepacks and a sitz bath afterwards and it worked like a charm; once you get over the idea of using them there.
But if you are so scared now, why not check out your options.
There's the spinal anesthitics, there's drugs, and there are c-section options available to most moms. Doctors and nurses would rather you use drugs and allow them to do their thing.
All I know is I was up and about the day of delivery and my sister who had to have a c-section was in misery for three weeks.
2006-11-02 03:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, women have been doing it for thousand of years, it is natural, ya ya ya..... anyway, nothing i say of anyone else is going to help you when the moment comes. Ask for an epidural if you are truly worried about the pain and remember, it is only temporary, you will not be in pain forever. and at the end of it you will have the greatest gift imaginable.
No one should ever request a C section just to forgo the pain of labor, C Sections are a major surgury and should be treated as such. Any Doctor that would agree to doing a C section just so you don't have to go through labor should be reported and have their medical license pulled!!!
2006-11-02 02:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by jbenishmlt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. I have gone through 3 birth and each one were different. Now, I am on my forth child, and there are a 7 yr gap between my youngest child and the new baby. I do have fear as well, not knowing if everything will be ok. But with the support from your partner (boyfriend/hubby) and friends & family they can give you all the support you can get.
2006-11-02 02:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by candace_bunnell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focusing in on pain will cause you to lose the greater joy of carrying your child. Labor and delivery can be long for some, but it also can be short. (Mine was only five hours from water breaking to actual delivery) By the time you are in the pushing stage, you are sooo excited about seeing your baby to worry about any pain you might feel. Personally, I had an epidural and felt only slight pressure. Try to stop worrying so much, and just enjoy this part of your journey with your child.
2006-11-02 02:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest to the doctor that you want an epidural if you are this worried about it. I had 4 children...all natural...not even a Tylenol and I would not have changed a thing with any of them. The pain is there but after that baby is born you will know that it was worth it. You don't even remember how bad the pain was.
2006-11-02 02:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the exact same way with my first daughter! Trust me, when you are in labor all you are thinking about is getting that baby out. I had one natural birth (no drugs) and another natural birth (with drugs) and I felt more normal with the no drug choice because with the drugs I could not think. But you will even start dreaming about the labor. It may not seem as bad as you think it is, but once that baby is out it is all well worth it! Good luck and hope baby is all well!
2006-11-02 02:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kristin S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh ya it's normal to be scared .. I was so scared of the labor part but it isnt as bad as you think... it is very painful but trust me if your going to drug route you'll be fine after I got my epidural I was feeling no pain :) until pushing time came but it was bearable pain after the baby is born your very tender espically if you need stitches I found I was in more pain after baby then during labor not trying to scare you but .... the hospital I was at had these pads that they would freeze and if you put a washcloth over them and put it in your underwear they feel amazing on you vagina it also depends on the woman some are very good with pain and others not so good just remember after the pain you get to enjoy your little baby it makes all the pain worth it and trust me you forget the pain otherwise everyone would only have one kid!
2006-11-02 03:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's absolutely normal... I feared labor with my daughter and my son. But I had an epidural with my son and it was great... It's woroth all the pain. You'll understand once you hold your baby in your arms. Then you'll feel silly for worring over it. I did anyway. Good Luck! and Congratulations!
2006-11-02 02:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely, I was scared so I took a labor and delivery class at the local hospital-it was extremely helpful however I ended up having to have a C-section.... if you are worried look into taking a labor and delivery class, talking with other soon to be first time moms will be helpful.... good luck :)
2006-11-02 02:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by katjha2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋