all the answers i got for me loving my x gf although she had a birth was askin me to go away of her and forget about her,i dont know how i can forget about her!although i havenot seen her for 2yrs but i still love her...i made many relationships with people but it seemed like it didnot help,there is not a single day would pass without me sayin callin her name by accident..plz tell me how can i forget someone who i love from all my heart?
2006-11-02 02:44:02 · 9 answers · asked by Tara 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The swahili say, the cure for fire is fire. Look for her, and spend some time together, only then will you realise she is not the only frog in the pond, and she is not as great as you had thought
2006-11-02 02:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by ThePresident 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a way... not really at least.
I feel your pain.
My first gf nearly killed me and ripped my heart out for years afterward. It is funny really, 10 years later + and I still get a little pang when I think of her.
That is the bad news, the good news is that it does get easier and if you have enough love in your heart to feel that strongly for someone else then it is honestly a matter of time before someone else comes along who makes you feel that way again, probably even better.
My gf now (we have been together nearly 5 years and are getting married in the Summer) is the most wonderful person I have ever known and if you would have asked me years ago I would never have believed it to be possible. The difference between her and my 1st is that I truly appreciate having someone to love who really loves me back. Before my heartache I do not think I really could have had the same appreciation for what I have now.
Love sometimes sucks, but sometimes it is all we have and while now things look bleak it will get better. I know it is cold-comfort at best but you just have to try to move on and realize that there is someone out there who will treat you right and give you what you need...
I promise :)
2006-11-02 10:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by D B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aloha from Down Unda!
We should never stop loving someone. Just because we love someone, we don't need to be consumed or impeeded by that love. Instead of dwelling on the current absence of that person, focus on the treasure of having had that opportunity, to have enjoyed that relationship in the past & recognize the ability to find an even more significant relationship in the future. And if we die before a more significant relationship develops, & we're living a clean & meaningful life, just think how much better a heavenly reunion will eventuate!
The key to all happiness is our own mindset. We can live as miserable as we can imagine or as happy as we can imagine. It's all in our head! Don't forget the name, remember it with gusto! They were important in our life & should always be loved & treasured & with billions of potential new names for us to call out, we should be glad we have the capacity to remember the names & to continue to love.
On a more conventional note, Paul Simons "50 Ways" (To Leave Your Lover)...
"Just drop off the key, Lee,
& git yersef free..." ;-)
K-den, M1/NSWMoke aka mikewonaus
2006-11-02 11:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very shocking to know that since two years u r not able to forget ur gf. But to start off with try and engage urself in other activities that u enjoy. May be ur hobbies. And also u say that u have had different relationships but u r not able to forget her. First of all stop finding her qualities and seeing her in all ur other relations. Deal with them as they are. Try to explore their good and bad traits rather than linking everyone with ur x. Reach out to people and make new friends rather than girlfriends. Take help from ur friends and involve them in ur daily chores. Enjoy every bit and every second of ur life for urself. U've had enough for her and two years are too much. BEST OF LUCK for ur new plans and keep in mind that whatever happens, happens for the good. I've experienced it! Bye. Take care.
2006-11-02 11:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by babblie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feelings and I still go through it sometimes. After 4 years of trying not to love someone, I finally just accepted that I always will love him, but I was still able to move on; it just took a lot of time.
Trying not to love someone can hurt and be a lot harder because you are telling yourself not to love someone that you are truly in love with. Maybe try accepting your love for her and know that you will always love her. It takes a lot more energy and time to try and not think of someone and forget them.
Plus, it's our human nature to think of something even more once we are told not to.
It is good that you really want to move on, but go about it by letting yourself love her. Over time, your strong feelings will fade and you'll move on, but there will always be love for her. I think the wound is still fresh. Everyone recovers on their own time so 2 years is not so long for you.
I think you'll find that you are more free once you let yourself love her in your mind, but you still keep your distance and give yourself a chance to mourn and get over her. Getting over her doesn't mean you have to hate her or have no feelings for her. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just give yourself a break from trying so hard and this might make it easier for you.
2006-11-02 11:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by nurse_ren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can help ur feelings.. if u cant get some1 out of ur head then maybe there suppose to be there. if u ahve her # then call her up and tell her how feel..tell her everything that u wrote down in ur story.it will prolly make her heat melt! if u dont have her # then i guess u move on cuz there is kno way u can get ahold of her and most likely she has someone else..good luck!
2006-11-02 10:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by queen bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i would say is its all of no use...its basically what you feel you can never reach out to anybody with that..... no one really understands you know never even people who say that ..."hey this is my gf/bf and i can bet you that this person really knows how much i love him/her....no they are all liars...because no one really understands and feels what you can and only you can feel within....so please ....now about forgeting its something you never really can because we have a brain and we have memories....its bound to be there...all you can do is get him out of your head!!!!
and you can only do it this way.....
as the code words goes.......
Fill it!!!! Shut it!!!!! n Forget it!!!
believe me this really helps you know and its only you who has to get your mind diverted from her......do anything do anything possible but tell yourself huh who is that!!! and concentrate on something else that you like!!!! it really will go....
Its really on to you dear if at all you want to keep her or throw her!!!
2006-11-02 12:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First mistake....You have not seen her in two years...yet you claim to love her....what if there are changes in her you are not aware of...you may be in love with an ideal about her.Love yourself first by allowing yourself to "be".You don't "owe" this individual ...Balance the relationship by shifting priorities to yourself.Life is good.Millions of other women are just as loving...Lighten up and Live!!!!
2006-11-02 11:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by TREVOR B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do other thing to avoid her or to make you forget plan about different things and do them all sooner or later youll forget and find a new one
2006-11-02 10:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Izamar R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋