why don't i have confidence when i make an speech?

Question

the more important ,the more tense

Answer 1

Firstly, prepare your speech. Write it on little cards so that you can't lose your place, and attach them together with a treasury tag, so they can't get out of order. That way there's one less thing to worry about. Write instructions to yourself on the cards, such as where to pause, where to smile, when to sound serious etc. You want to get your delivery right for your speech to have the effect you want it to on your audience. Make sure you're happy with the speech, so that you've every confidence in what you're saying. Then practice it alone, remembering to breathe, and speak clearly. The way you'll speak when delivering a speech is different to how you'd usually speak in conversation. Take the pace down a notch or two. Remember, you're in control: what you say and how you say it affects the audience. They want you to succeed as much as you want to. Get used to the sound of your own voice giving the speech, and practise in front of a mirror, or a friend. Something people forget, is to make eye contact with the audience. So if you're familiar with what you're going to say, look up, look at the people, see the positive reactions, and let your facial expression reflect what you're saying.

The day of the speech, don't practise it - that will wind you up. Read it through, DON'T change anything. Eat a hearty breakfast, and do some slow breathing exercises. You will get a bit of adrenaline, but you can use that to your advantage. Adrenaline and nerves are an energy which can help you knock them dead, giving you a clarity which you can use to your advantage. Just keep a positive mindset, keep breathing, and keep it slow. You can do it!

Answer 2

You should not equate being tense with a lack of confidence. Being tense before a speech can be a good thing. Feelings of tenseness are caused by your body’s defense mechanisms; which kick in because your body is preparing for something that it knows is important. You should only get worried if you are not tense before your speech because this means that you do not take it seriously. This indifference will actually make your speech worse. Thus, being tense is a good thing because it means you take the speech seriously which naturally causes you to perform better. Regardless of how experienced or comfortable you are at speaking in front of people you should hope to feel tense before speaking.

Answer 3

I was the same way for a while. It's not that you don't have confidence but just nervous to talk in front of a group of people. I talked to my uncle the first time I found out I had to make a speech & he used to be in the Army & was a big timer so he is used to talking in front of people. He suggested to things, one talk deep from your sternum (this allows for a more stearn voice) and second that I make the speech in the privacy of my home while recording it & then listening back to see what you did wrong. Once it sounds good to you, it will make you more confident to give the speech. Good luck!!

Answer 4

Just about every person goes through this. Most never get over it %100, even among those who do it regularly. There will always be a higher stress level when you are in front of a group of people.

Its a totally different story how you appear to them.

Don't put your hands in your pockets, don't look around, don't turn you back to the crowd, keep eye contact as much as possible. The audience observes a small fraction of the nervousness you feel. Unless you are really shaky most people don't even notice it at all. Its all about appearance and the more you do it, the more confident you will be. Just be prepared before you appear before a crowd...much confidence has to do with preparation. Be fluent with what you are speaking on.

Answer 5

That's generally because u think that if something wrong is said by u,everyone will laugh at u. The best way to overcome this p-roblem -- stand in front of thef mirror and talk to yourself. It will hardly take 5 minutes. And while making a speech think that u r alone and u r speaking well.

Answer 6

Your first 3 answers are very good ones. Let me add to that that everyone plays roles in life, just like actors play roles. So watch your favorite public speakers and imagine yourself being just as effective.

Practice your speech, stance and hand movements in front of a mirror. You will notice that quick movements are distracting, while natural movement seems natural.

PLAY THE ROLE.

Answer 7

The simple answer is because you are thinking about yourself. If you can start thinking about the content of the speech and how it is going to help the listeners, your mindset will be more focused on them and not yourself. Your speech has value, believe in it and how it will help inform them, and how they'll be better for hearing it.

Answer 8

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