i really love that guy but im to young iam only 15 and he is 17. i really like him he makes me laugh all time. he so nice to me and he said that he going to be takin care of the kid while iam at school. should i belive him or not ? he say that he goin to be help me with everything that the baby needs. but im scared to have one so young. he say that he really likes me that im 1st to him. He got a girlfriend but he said that she dont care about him at all! should i have the baby with him or not? im just scared so yaeh please help me! i dont know what to do.
2006-11-02 02:25:14 · 74 answers · asked by cheska305 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
O.K you've heard enough about the age issue (which is a BIG ISSUE) Not just your age but his for showing his immaturity.
With age aside, whatever age you are, if you are not in agreement about having kids, you're in for a whole lot of heartache if you do have kids.
Finally, I want to say leave this guy. You don't need this type of pressure at this time for your life. You probably have another 60 years ahead of you, start it right (even if other things have gone wrong, don't keep going towards that path). You have the power to make a difference in your own life, no matter what society say, just stay focused and determined.
Good Luck with ya.
2006-11-02 02:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by pululu81 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no and NO!!!!!! He may really be a great guy & he may turn out to be "the one" for you, but if he is the one, he won't pressure you & he'll still be there when you're ready, even if it's 10 years from now. And if he says he's going to take care of the baby while you're in school... my question is at age 17, why isn't he in school too? If he's dropped out, that's not a good sign. How does he plan on supporting you & the baby? Babies & children are VERY expensive. I'm a single mom & believe me, I had my daughter at age 34 & it is not easy. There is no way I could have done it as a teenager.Not just the money thing. Being a parent is a HUGE responsibility. No matter what your boyfriend tells you, that baby is going to be your responsibility if he changes his mind. And you said he already has a girlfriend...also not a good sign. A 17 or 18 year old might just decide that the other girl is alot more appealing than poopy diapers & a screaming baby at 3 AM. Anyway, I'm not trying to lecture you, but PLEASE take my advice and wait until you've at least graduated from highschool, or whenever YOU feel ready. The other thing is that any future child of yours deserves to be born when YOU are ready & able to be a great mom. I know you don't feel like a kid, but you really are still a kid & you have lots of years ahead of you to have babies. Enjoy your teenage years while you can! Good luck to you, I wish you the best. =)
2006-11-02 03:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by auntmimi210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. You are way too young to be having sex, much less be a mother. Do not let him talk you into this. Having a baby is a wonderful thing, but it is a HUGE responsibility. You should find a new boyfriend or better yet, you don't even need to have a boyfriend at all at this stage in your life. You say he has a girlfriend. So does he have 2 girlfriends? Is he trying to get both of you pregnant? He's going to stay home with the baby while you are in school? Why isn't he in school. If he's not in school then he needs a job. Stay away from this loser. Stay in school. Wait until you are at least 10 years older and married to a guy who loves you , is responsible and doesn't cheat on you.
2006-11-02 03:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By what you tell I don´t doubt that he really loves you now. But things can change.
Planning to have a baby is something very serious.
It´s a very very heavy burden.
Does he or you have a steady job with which to keep the baby´s expenses as well as yours?
Do you have a place to live?.
If there is no way to pay the bills your romance will surely crash, and too late you will realize that you have lost everything for having taken a wrong decision.
Now, if he has a job, and better still if both of you have one, then there is a chance that things could go well.
Nevertheless I think 15 years is too young to embark in such an ordeal.
First consolidate your relation, get to really know each other, and be sure things will go right in the future. You have plenty of time ahead, take your time plan intelligently don´t hurry.
This is a decision that could affect the next 70 or 80 years of your life,
2006-11-02 02:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness, I don't even know where to start! Where are your parents? Haven't they taught you any better than this? You are a 15 year old child talking about having a baby with a 17 year old child who isn't even rightfully your boyfriend. HE IS WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!! He is LYING to you. Why on earth would you want to be with let alone have a baby with someone who has a girlfriend that isn't you?
Do you have any idea how hard it is for a grown adult who's life is already together to have and care for a child? It is a million times harder to have one when you are a child yourself. You have to take care of and be responsible for another human being every second of every minute of every day for 18 YEARS. Do the math, that's 6 THOUSAND 5 HUNDRED 10 DAYS!! Can you commit the next 6,510 days to someone besides yourself? The answer is NO! That's because you still need these next few years learing how to take care of yourself. I know you feel like you are all grown up and can handle this responsibility but trust me you can't. I know it sounds like I am being harsh to you but I am really not. I have sixteen and fifteen year old daughters. I have talks with them all the time. The have both taken a vow of purity and promised to remain virgins until their wedding night. Your virginity is a very very precious gift and I only hope you haven't given it away yet. And if you have, then you can decide that you will not have sex anymore until your wedding night and declare yourself a "born again virgin"! :) Sweetie, you are so so young with so much life in front of you. Take you time growing up because once you are there you will wish you had. Finish school, go to college, start your career and then find a man who respects you and is only with you and treats you good. After you are married for a few years, then have a baby. Your future children deserve to come into a stable, loving, financially secure home. Think about your babies now and give them a chance to live a happy life. They deserve it and if you care about them at all you will make the decision to wait. Good luck Sweetie and have a very blessed day.
2006-11-02 02:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are smart to ask someone,,Dont do it!!!!!!!!!!!! you are too young , you have a lot of living to do before having a baby,him saying he likes you isnt a good reason to have a baby they are not toys and believe it or not he will probably forget where you live and go his merry way when the baby is here.taking care of a baby is important and takes money,patience,support and since you are smart enough to know you cannot provide these things tell him to move on. You need to finish high school then decide what you want to do when you are older but having a baby because some one wants a "kid"an expression i hate,this so called kid isnt a doll or a toy it is a baby a little human that should be born to loving and caring parents who arent children themselves,and thinking you wont miss out on school,proms etc is totally wrong I would almost bet this guy simply wants sex and if you stand up to him and tell him nnnnnnnnnnnnoooooo way he will move on. by the way unprotected sex isnt a good idea which im sure you know. Go to the school health nurse or school psychologist if you need more help.I know I sound like an old rip ,an old mom that doesnt know anything but I hope you will listen I have learned a few things in my life.good luck
2006-11-02 02:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by g m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is this for real?? You must be joking.. I can't even take this seriously. Something like having a baby is the hugest responsibility you will ever have in your life. It isn't a fun "project" or something to please a high school boyfriend, it will be a responsibility for the rest of your life. While your other friends are out partying when the weekend comes you'll be at home looking after baby.. and you can bet that boyfriend is for sure going to be out. Once the shine has worn off you and the baby he is going to take off and you are going to be the one having to drop out of school and raise this poor kid. Also look at it from an unselfish way.. do you really think that you could give a baby a good stable life/upbringing?? The answer is NOOO! Tell him that is he loves/ respects you he will accept your decision, and if he doesn't then shouldn't that say it all right there? He isn't ready to be no baby daddy!
2006-11-02 02:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!! Only have a baby when you are ready and when you can take care of it. You should wait....many years. What about marriage first???
If your boyfriend wants a baby that bad he should get a pet to care for....they are a lot of work but much easier than a child. Don't believe him. You both are too young and not ready. Don't be pressured by this guy...if he really loves and cares for you then he will stick around even without a baby. Good luck to you. Be strong, and don't let him make a decision for you that you will have to deal with for at least the next 18 to 20 years!
2006-11-02 12:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off.. way too young. AND he has a girlfriend???? Hell no don't have a baby with him! Girl listen to me... to have a baby you need to have a fulltime job both of you. You know how much it costs to take care of a baby??? I have an 8 month old and I'm going on 22 in December and I still wish I had waited a while! AND if you don't want a baby right now... then don't have one. It's your body and you'll be the one stuck with the child if he decides to leave you. Wait til you're older. And I'd also say ditch the guy if he keeps pressing you and if he has another girlfriend.
2006-11-02 02:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by lightprincess03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...absolutley not! You are only 15! You need to finish school, get a decent job, and grow up a LOT more. I am telling you this from experience.....PLEASE BELIEVE ME! I HAVE BEEN THERE! He may say that he will give you all of those things...but honestly, even if he believes he can...he has no idea! He isn't even an adult yet? And shouldn't he be in school when you are? If you love him and he loves you...he will respect your decision. The two of you should make a goal to get yourselves grown up, educated, successful and settled FIRST! If you can both accomplish that THEN you deserve to have children. I went through that when I was 15 too. He promised me the world! What I ended up with was 2 beautiful children...unfortunately I also ended up with a deadbeat dad, thousands of dollars owed to me in child support, two children that missed having a daddy, welfare, alot of unpaid bills and a hell of a lot of lonely nights! I do believe that he wanted to give us the world...but at 17 with no education and not a pot to piss in...it was a lot harder than either of us thought. He left on my second childs first birthday!
I am 30 now and I don't regret my children for even a moment...but that is beacause I love them and raised tham well.. on my own. I stuggled and struggled for so many years to give them what they needed and deserved..and I still think they deserved more. Now, I am married to an AMAZING man...with an education, a great job, and a lot more to offer. I get to be a stay home mom for my 10 and 12 year olds, and his 8 and 10 year olds and we are expecting our first child together in January. I feel better about my entire life now. I know that we can provide for our children and that this baby will have TWO loving parents and everything it will ever need!
2006-11-02 02:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋