READ ! I'm female, i usually feel VERY femenine BUT when i feel humiliated i want to feel and look like a man?

Question

With my ex, i harldly ever felt good, i felt like a man most of the time.I didn't want to feel femenine, even though I ONLY LIKE men ? Now that i'm single I LOVE feeling femenine, but when i feel bad about myself i take off my makeup, why ????????????????

Answer 1

You are obviously going through a bout with depression. This happens virtually to all of us. It's truly difficult to find someone who isn't self-conscious or insecure in some way. We all have a kanck for finding our own imperfections and then blowing them out of proportion. When you feel insecure or self-conscious, all you want to do is hide in a closet somewhere. I was going through that my self because I started to lose my hair. Thankfully I started a treatment and I was able to contain it. During the time it was happening though, I felt like I wanted to wear a mask all the time.

The same thing happens when people are concerned about their weight. They feel bad or ashamed, and then they resort to over-eating, which in the end is even worse.

Whatever you think is your problem, I'm sure it's not bad. You are sure of your sexual orientation and that's good. Just remember that other people will see what you see in yourself. If you see a beautiful, talented and charming woman, other people will see that, imperfection included. But if you project nothing more than insecurity, hostility and self-consciouness, people will pick up on that and it'll only make matters worse.

Answer 2

I would recommend a self help book,such as "Let Your Goddess Grow! 7 Spiritual Lessons on Female Power and Positive Thinking" by Charlene M. Proctor.I understand you feel and look like man because you think that he doesn't treat you like a lady,because if he did then you would feel prettier.So you feel like a man,and your keeping the hard exterior such as a man would.When you feel bad about our self,you go back to thinking about that man that treated you bad,and the hard exterior as a man,goes back up,so you take your makeup off.Its OK,to take it off...you can't be a doll all of the time.Every girl takes there makeup off and puts on some sweats and a tank top,and pigs out on ice cream while they watch a good movie on the couch.Your not alone.

Answer 3

We all have a little aspect of the opposite gender in us. Most males will never admit to their feminine side, but I guarantee most all of us have one.

Perhaps you associate masculine traits will the strength and power you need to control the things that are troubling you. If you felt your ex was not fulfilling his role as "provider" or "protector" then perhaps you felt the need to take over that role.

As for removing makeup when feeling down. I can only imagine not wanting to feel made up and "pretty" if one's thoughts are dark and ugly.

Answer 4

Well in my opinion...
you probably are a pretty girl that likes to dress up and wear make-up, this ofcourse bringing attention to your self, you stand out, your pretty, or you feel that by wearing make-up and looking girlie you are noticed more... when you feel down,upset, angry you feel like you dont want to be noticed you just want to get to where you need to go, do what you need to do, just hoping no-one talks to you or even looks at you. this would be the mask you put on, an image of something tougher than "girlie" you use a boyish look and act as the snail uses its shell.

Answer 5

Men have the power! Or, at least that is probably your perception. So, when you feel powerless, you want to feel more powerful to compensate, so you want to feel more masculine. I get the same way -- an overbearing father and two brothers who got all the attention can do that to you! Go back, put an your make-up, and believe it -- WOMEN CAN be powerful. Hope you feel better about yourself soon!

Answer 6

I'm not a physiologist, but I will assume that this behavior is a subconscious defense mechanism.
In you're mind you link feminine with weak and masculine with strong.
When you feel weak or threatened you take the feminine make up off, in order to restore the feeling of dominance, strenght and being in control of you're life.
With the boyfriend I would assume he was very bossy, and you behaved in this way, not to allow him to dominate you.
You have to teach yourself that being feminine does not necessarily mean being weak. (Watch Meryl Streeps character in the Devil Wears Prada, it portrays female strenght)
As I say, I'm not trained in this field, but this is my opinion.